Young couple next door, one year old baby, she has recently gone back to work. They work alternate shifts so childcare is split between them and family. I know her enough to occasional talk on social media, but we aren't friends.
He has quite a temper - he plays video games when she isn't there and full on screaming, shouting, swearing, banging - it's ridiculous. They argue quite a lot as well as it's the same sort of behaviour.
Yesterday, she went to work, he looked after the baby. Every time the baby cried, he would start screaming at it "shut the fuck up", the crying went on for ages as it sounded like he put the baby in another room and ignored it as the crying became like sobbing when babies become inconsolable. This happened every time the baby cried, he sounded really angry and the screaming and swearing was horrendous. We have a toddler so I know how testing they can be, but this was beyond that - i was actually contemplating either going over and asking him what the hell he was doing or contacting her to tell her.
I decided against it as either way would end in trouble as I would be accusing him of neglect/abuse.
I think she would be horrified if she knew he was acting like this whilst caring for the baby.
If it happens again, I think something will need to be said (both from the aspects of I am concerned for the baby but also that he is subjecting us to all of this noise) but I am interested in others opinions. Would you ignore it, say something? Would you gone over?
Social services but if you're that concerned, I know I would be at witnessing that level of aggression towards a 1 year old, is call 101. Imagine how frightened that little child must be. Also record it if you can on your phone.
Jesus, op, this is when you call the police! A baby is at massive risk when left alone with a young man who is enraged and has no self-control. He could end up killing this baby. Call the police, call social services, and tell the mother. Tell anyone you have to.