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To throw dh's dinner in the bin?

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allegretto Mon 29-May-17 19:22:06

- and I know already the answer is yes. Yesterday ds7 and dd went to a party and were given a bag of sweets each. They hardly ever have sweets and it was a really nice selection. Today dd wanted hers but ds couldn't find his. He said he thought dh might have thrown them away as he said he would. I didn't believe he would as it would be such a waste - and also a completely stupid "lesson " as Dd still had hers. Turns out he did as he decided ds had too many sweets. confused So tonight I served up dinner and then threw dh's in the bin. Yes, I am completely unreasonable but just wanted dh to understand how ds felt.

lastqueenofscotland Mon 29-May-17 19:25:08

YABU for wasting food.

Was there any disciplinary reason for what DH did?

BronwenFrideswide Mon 29-May-17 19:25:16

What was your dh's reaction?

Patriciathestripper1 Mon 29-May-17 19:25:39

😂 thats brilliant.
Your poor son. Sorry but I think your Dh is one big arse for doing that to a child.

Pinkheart5917 Mon 29-May-17 19:26:33

I don't believe in throwing children's sweets/toys/whatever away to make a point, imo it's a cruel thing to do.

You say they don't have sweets often anyway, so it's not like they are choking down on 10 mars bars a day. Does he actually know what his dc eat? confused

Why did he only throw 1 child's away?

Yes you may of been unreasonable throwing the dinner away. But he was unreasonable to throw the child's sweet so............

AdalindSchade Mon 29-May-17 19:27:22

Why did he threaten to throw them away? Was it a punishment?

CakeNinja Mon 29-May-17 19:27:36

Why didn't he throw dds sweets away aswell?
Why wasn't this dealt with as a separate issue to the dinner?
Two wrongs don't make a right confused
I'm guessing there is more to this, but on the surface, he was mean to throw anyone's sweets away, and you were petty and equally mean and wasteful to thrown his food in the bin.
Honestly, are either of these behaviours good examples for your dc to be growing up with?

Soubriquet Mon 29-May-17 19:27:46

Why on earth did he throw them away?!

Sweets keep for ages. Could have rationed them for a while

Bet he wasn't impressed with his dinner in the bin

PumpkinPie2016 Mon 29-May-17 19:28:12

What reason did he have for throwing your son's sweets away but not your daughter's?

Surely, if I thought he had too many the solution would be to put some away for another day rather than throw them away?

What did he say when you threw the dinner away?

ClopySow Mon 29-May-17 19:28:21

I like you.

allegretto Mon 29-May-17 19:29:34

YABU for wasting food.

I know and now I feel really guilty but I just saw red!

Why did he only throw 1 child's away? I don't know. It was stupid AND inconsistent. He now says I am being infantile...

DixieFlatline Mon 29-May-17 19:31:32

Sounds like he got what he deserved.

Justmadeperfectflapjacks Mon 29-May-17 19:32:02

Does he have other odd ideas regarding parenting?

Msqueen33 Mon 29-May-17 19:33:01


NellieFiveBellies Mon 29-May-17 19:33:19

what a bloody ridiculous thing your husband did.
your son had too many sweets but your daughter didnt?
even if he wanted to put a hold on it he could have put them somewhere to be handed out at a later date.
instead he chucked one childs away while letting the other child keep theirs.
dd his favourite by any chance?

Elland Mon 29-May-17 19:34:21

Fantastic response!

AvocadoLovingMamaOfOne Mon 29-May-17 19:34:32

I'm sorry but this really made me laugh!

Did he really throw your DS sweets away or did he eat them himself?

deadringer Mon 29-May-17 19:35:09

Are you sure he didn't eat them himself op.

FrenchMartiniTime Mon 29-May-17 19:35:48

Why did he only throw out 1 child's sweets, that sends a really bad message to your son.

He had too many? Then keep some back for a later date!

Very odd behaviour.

lifesjoys Mon 29-May-17 19:37:11

😂😂 op, you are fucking hilarious.

I've so much respect for you right now, YANBU!!

TheWeeBabySeamus1 Mon 29-May-17 19:37:40

So he decided that DS wasn't allowed sweets but DD was? That's really mean and smacks of favouritism.

I think your response was spot on - let the punishment fit the crime.

HildaOg Mon 29-May-17 19:38:49

He sounds really cruel. Getting sweets is a very big deal to a kid if they rarely have them (I grew up with sugarphobes). That's just nasty. I'd take the the kid out and buy him loads of sweets to make up for it.

NatalieRushman Mon 29-May-17 19:38:55


For feeling guilty.

Honestly, that was a brilliant response. DH was an ass.

Cookingongas Mon 29-May-17 19:40:10

I don't understand- why would he do that? Was it malicious? Was it punishment? Why did he throw away a child's gift? Because that's what it was- a gift that a person gave your son. It had fuck all to do with your dh? And why not dds?

Frankly I think that your irrational and infantile action only serves to act as a reflection of his irrational and infantile action. Yanbu.

MycatsaPirate Mon 29-May-17 19:40:48


I applaud you.

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