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She talks utter rubbish!

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user93483098350593850000 Sun 14-May-17 13:58:27

Just called DM.

She immediately launched into a litany of opinions which I will go on to describe. We never have a normal chat. Never begins with "Hello, how are you?" and stuff like that. Just launches straight in yammering away.

Talked for the best part of two hours, barely drawing for breath.

Today's topics. The world according to my Mother:-

Doctors pretend you have illnesses like diabetes to sell you pills.

Doctors come into schools and any child who is talkative and asks questions gets diagnosed with ADHD so that more Ritalin can be sold.

The woman two doors down is rattling with pills. She gets them delivered daily. She doesn't need all that. I asked why she got them then. "Oh, she has schizophrenia, but they don't let children play properly nowadays..." (I cannot follow this - I think my mum is trying to claim the woman has schizophrenia because she wasn't allowed to play properly as a child?!)

Health is one of her main hobby horses. Recently, she has self-diagnosed MS and also told me she got a cookbook and has completely cured it in a week(!) She hasn't been near a doctor. So she takes a very dim view of medics and their pill-pushing according to her.

Exhausting. I just tune out and surf while she yammers on. She has been like this all my life so it's not dementia. I can't be bothered to argue or try to understand her train of thought. If you say something that she cannot dispute, she changes tack and goes onto something else. She hates to be caught out, iyswim.

I always feel wrung out and tired after these calls. Her record is nearly five hours of non-stop yammering!

Nightmare sad

bigchris Sun 14-May-17 14:00:15

Read a book at the same time

Or stop calling

user93483098350593850000 Sun 14-May-17 14:02:01

Grew up with this.

At least it's just phone calls now. Her emails are the same.

I don't call nearly as much as I used to. I feel guilty but there it is.

Maudlinmaud Sun 14-May-17 14:04:28

Yes that does sound tough. Wonder what book cured her MS can you find out? I'm having a difficult couple of days grin.
I have no advice really. Just don't listen to her or get drawn into an argument.

user93483098350593850000 Sun 14-May-17 14:06:40

Thanks, Maud

I have learned to detach and try to keep my blood pressure now.

She's so unsympathetic towards people, acts like she has all the answers, never listens, a know-it-all, etc. Her own life is far from perfect with shattered relationships all around her, but she conveniently forgets that.

user93483098350593850000 Sun 14-May-17 14:07:44

I am on pills for a serious illness. Made the mistake of telling her. She keeps telling me I should stop taking them. Sends me crap she finds on the internet which she thinks will cure me. One was a well-known scam and the people were done for selling a product containing drain cleaner!

MaisieDotes Sun 14-May-17 14:09:45

Oh user I feel your pain.

My mother is similar and also spends a lot of time bitching about anyone and everyone, including her grandchildren.

So obviously I'm left wondering what she is saying to my siblings about me and my DC.

Maudlinmaud Sun 14-May-17 14:12:53

Less said easiest mended. At least you have a little place to vent now, tucked away in a corner of the internet. She's your mother but that doesn't mean you have to like or accept everything she says.

user93483098350593850000 Sun 14-May-17 14:18:07

Maisie

I know what you mean. I know for a fact she's run me down to others.

user93483098350593850000 Sun 14-May-17 14:19:25

Maud

You're right there. I need to switch off and move on.

Her behaviour has really done a number on not just my self-esteem but that of my siblings. I'm an adult now and have to just let her be who she is.

Maudlinmaud Sun 14-May-17 14:23:07

Low contact is something you should consider. Do not react at all when she starts on about whatever. They hate that and crave any reaction.

user93483098350593850000 Sun 14-May-17 14:24:09

Thanks, Maud I am very LC thanks to geographical distance, so am grateful for that. Have read up so much on disorders over the past couple of years I am a lot more aware of the dysfunctional dance. Just had to vent this morning grin.

user93483098350593850000 Sun 14-May-17 14:27:19

I have to psych myself for these calls (it's mother's day where we are) so had to call today.

specialsubject Sun 14-May-17 19:19:26

Well done on not inheriting her foolishness!

Just put the phone down and leave her babbling to empty air.

user93483098350593850000 Sun 14-May-17 21:11:03

Yeah, I'm always surfing or flicking through a magazine during the calls. I try not to listen or it makes me angry. She never notices anyway.

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