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Is it rude of me to keep correcting people when they get my name wrong?

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creampinkrose Thu 16-Feb-17 23:04:57

People keep mispronouncing my name. Is it rude to keep correcting them, or does there come a point when you should just answer to what they decide your name is?

OutnumberedbyFurchesters Thu 16-Feb-17 23:07:14

Depends how wrong it is... i get this too and will almost always correct.

Only don't when it's almost there and they're not going to be needing/continuing to get it wrong throughout conversation or for the reason I'm with them.

ZackyVengeance Thu 16-Feb-17 23:07:27

Depends
I worked with. A woman once who was always correcting me, it was awful as how ever hard i tried i could not say her name right

user1484226561 Thu 16-Feb-17 23:10:19

It does get very very tedious, especially if you can't make out what someone is complaining about, and you end up just deciding not to say their name at all.

All names have a variety of pronunciations, and people set their own limits on how much leeway they allow. I accept versions of my name which are two syllabuls, or three syllabuls , and it amazes me that other people genuinely cannot hear the difference, but i don't care, I just let it go.

If it matters a lot to you, then rather than constantly interrupting the conversation with something that quite frankly matters not a lot to the people talking, approach it at a separate time and go into it at length, explain the difference, explain that it matters to you.

If someone still gets it wrong, just rise above it.

creampinkrose Thu 16-Feb-17 23:11:25

It's a lot of people who get it wrong though, not one specific person smile

SunshineOutdoors Thu 16-Feb-17 23:14:18

Would help a lot to know what the name is, and how it's being pronounced. Does it feel like it's being done deliberately or by accident?

creampinkrose Thu 16-Feb-17 23:17:11

It gets pronounced every conceivable way you can think of! Rowenna smile

ChicRock Thu 16-Feb-17 23:17:16

If it's a lot of people constantly getting it wrong then it's obviously "one of those names".

Blame your parents.

creampinkrose Thu 16-Feb-17 23:17:55

I do!

llangennith Thu 16-Feb-17 23:18:48

Only one way to pronounce Rowenna and only one way to pronounce Rowena.

rollonthesummer Thu 16-Feb-17 23:19:57

How are they saying it?

creampinkrose Thu 16-Feb-17 23:21:29

Roweeeena or row-anna, mostly.

DJKKSlider Thu 16-Feb-17 23:21:45

If you correct someone once and they continue to do it wrong, they are being rude, not you.

Heratnumber7 Thu 16-Feb-17 23:23:11

I would say "Row - en - a". Is that right? I work with a Rowena. That spelling i would pronounce " Row - ee - na", as does she.

user1484226561 Thu 16-Feb-17 23:25:28

O no, Not that one! i have a neice with this name, it has several ways of being said in scottish, or in English.

creampinkrose Thu 16-Feb-17 23:26:09

That's right, herat smile

Not as far as I'm aware, user!

user1484226561 Thu 16-Feb-17 23:28:40

she is prunounced "roy - anna" but has been called Rowena/ row enna at lot since starting at a uk university.

JoanofNark17 Thu 16-Feb-17 23:29:40

All names have a variety of pronunciations

No they don't. My name has one, just one.

chatnanny Thu 16-Feb-17 23:31:23

YANBU but, if you're having to tell the same people over and over, TABU!

user1484226561 Thu 16-Feb-17 23:31:32

I'm sure its going to sound different in different accents and different languages. Most do.

ph0ebe Thu 16-Feb-17 23:32:39

I would say that row Enna but I know several Rowenas so possibly could get mixed up. Introduce yourself as Ro? wink

ZackyVengeance Thu 16-Feb-17 23:32:45

The name i cant say is ailsa
Didnt matter how much she tried to get me to say it right I couldn't
Op yours sounds easy

creampinkrose Thu 16-Feb-17 23:34:39

Royanna is nothing like my name!

pillowcase6 Thu 16-Feb-17 23:36:02

What a great name. I think correcting each individual once or twice is acceptable but correcting one person many times is a lost battle. They probably have processing issues that mean they can't hear what they're saying wrong.

I work in a very multicultural environment with a lot of names that are unusual to my ears, and mine is hard for some people to say, so none of us actually bother correcting each other unless someone says "sorry, did I pronounce that right?" We just roll with it.

Having said that, I do shake my head at some coworkers who don't even try. They just say the person's name in a very English way which is patently not the name. Think, pronouncing "Jacques" as "Jackies" hmm

user1484226561 Thu 16-Feb-17 23:38:39

Royanna is nothing like my name! no, its said differently but spelt the same ( I think)

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