I joined a gym three weeks ago, not really knowing what I wanted to do, just that I needed to lose a lot of weight.
I've come to the conclusion (with the help of a LOT of online research!) that I'm better off doing weights. One of the trainers agrees with me, gave me a programme to follow, showed me how to do everything on it and discussed nutrition. He says strength training is streets ahead of cardio for what I want to achieve.
The other trainer (who runs the gym) says he wants me to do cardio and nothing else. He says he 'doesn't want me getting distracted by this weights thing' and that I'll never lose the weight if I don't do cardio. He says that even if he does let me do weights, I'm only to use light ones (he suggested 2.5kg for a bicep curl - I can do 3x10 of them with 7.5kg!) because I'm a girl and I'll get bulky ('we don't want to get bulky, now, do we?') He said he doesn't want me to do squats (even though I've already done them with the other trainer using the bar) and has flat-out forbidden me to deadlift.
I've had the same conversation with him every evening for the last three weeks and I'm getting sick of it. Nothing I say makes any difference - he's sure that his way is the only way and clearly thinks that I'm just an idiotic know-it-all fat girl.
Do I give in and just do hours of cardio every week for the next year and lose what muscle I actually have, brazen it out and hope that he gives up (I don't think he will; he likes things to be done his way - he told DH the day we joined that it's a lovely friendly gym, and that once there was this one guy who was grumpy and only grunted when people said hello to him so he rescinded his membership!), or just ask for my money back and join another gym that's much less convenient and more expensive?
I'm feeling to positive about finally changing my body and being healthy and he's destroying my enthusiasm.
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CheshireCait · 15/04/2015 19:03
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