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My mum told me something today which occurred to me after was totally woo

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Kenworthington Mon 25-Apr-16 20:16:20

So many years ago I became really good friends with 2 girls , we were 17 and at college together. Anyway, fast forward a few years to 2000 and dh and I got married and friend1 'R' came to our wedding and friend2 'B' was my bridesmaid. I didn't ask R as she was away travelling and I wasn't sure if she'd be back. But anyway she made it back for the wedding and a few months after before going off travelling again.
In March 2002 she was in New Zealand back packing and had a massive heart attack and died. She was only 25. sad other friend and I are obviously devastated. Fast forward another year and B gets married at the end of the year. In the same church where I got married and R was buried sad
Anyway was talking to my mum about her today and also about Bs wedding. And she said 'oh gosh I remember her wedding so well, your father and I went along to the church and watched from outside waiting to see B and her dh come out of the church. I remember so well R arrived really late, screeching to a halt in her car, we chatted a while and she said she couldn't stop but just wanted to see B on her wedding day' and at first I was all 'how typical hahah she was always late for everything!' Then I thought ' well that can't be right as she would have been AT the wedding' then... 'I don't remmeber her being there' then the sudden realisation that she couldn't have been there as she had died 18 months or so before shock. It was so so typically R that it seems so plausible and why would my mum make it up or misremember it? There was no way she would have muddled her up with someone else and wouldn't be confusing the wedding with another one either. Anyway just thought I'd share. Thought you might all like it smile

SnoozeButtonAbuser Mon 25-Apr-16 20:22:45

I've never heard of a ghost arriving by car before! Are you going to ask your mum if she's entirely sure, given the circumstances!

whataflop Mon 25-Apr-16 20:22:51

Given me goosebumps confused

whataflop Mon 25-Apr-16 20:23:05

Given me goosebumps confused

whataflop Mon 25-Apr-16 20:23:10

Given me goosebumps confused

Kenworthington Mon 25-Apr-16 20:24:35

I know hahaha! Weird right. It was a while ago obv but she was so matter of fact about it. Which was why I went through this really daft monologue in my head!

FartyTette Mon 25-Apr-16 20:30:13

Have you got goosebumps by any chance What?

Kenworthington Mon 25-Apr-16 20:31:22


ChalkHearts Mon 25-Apr-16 20:46:05

Did your mum seriously just tell you she a ghost at your friends wedding?

And she told you now - years after the event?

That's really cool smile

Kenworthington Mon 25-Apr-16 20:48:38

Yea! But she thought it actually happened it only occurred to me a few minutes after she'd said about it. I WANT to belive it rather than my mum just being batty!

Kenworthington Mon 25-Apr-16 20:49:33

Who knew ghosts could drive shitty old bangers?! And now I'm dying to tell B but she's very very poorly in hospital sad

Floggingmolly Mon 25-Apr-16 20:51:08

She seriously arrived in a car??

MeMySonAndl Mon 25-Apr-16 20:52:07

I think your mum may be confusing the memories of your wedding with those of B's wedding

Kenworthington Mon 25-Apr-16 20:52:24

Yes apparently hmm I agree it sounds a little well, doubtful grin

Kenworthington Mon 25-Apr-16 20:53:49

Thing is I do distinctly remember my mum and dad being outside the church at Bs wedding when we came out. Little country village church and they'd strolled along the lane to watch

Kenworthington Mon 25-Apr-16 20:54:27

I feel like I might be going batty now

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig Mon 25-Apr-16 21:11:06

Your mum and dad would hardly be standing outside the church waiting to see you at your own wedding. Unless you're not particularly close. grin

LisaRinnasLips Mon 25-Apr-16 21:14:29

Your mum should see her gp grin

whataflop Tue 26-Apr-16 06:51:55

Haha sorry for posting three times! But yes I had goosebumps!! shock

HalfwayUpALadder Tue 26-Apr-16 06:56:19

I love that people think the fact she arrived in a car is the implausible bit 😆

MeMySonAndl Tue 26-Apr-16 06:59:25

Why, because ghosts can't drive? I would love to hear the description of the car she used.

WellErrr Tue 26-Apr-16 06:59:27

'Ghost, yes.

Ghost driving a car? ODFO.'


mummytime Tue 26-Apr-16 07:35:10

Okay two possible solutions:
A) your parents/mum saw a ghost
B) your mother's memories have become confused, and a memory of B has become added to her memory of the wedding- it could even have been a vivid dream. Memory isn't that reliable.

Of course in a book/film/eastenders it would be C) B isn't really dead - just .... In witness protection or whatever.

MGC1986 Tue 26-Apr-16 08:39:54

C) B isn't really dead - just .... In witness protection or whatever.

This was what I immediately thought.

Kenworthington Tue 26-Apr-16 14:15:35

Saw dm today. She maintains it absolutely was definitely Bs. Wedding and ghost friend was sef there and def arrived by car. I may have to book a twin room at my dads dementia care home confused

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