DD (11) is mad keen on horses and has been for about the last year. She has been on two residential riding camps of 4 days each and is booked on another in January (our summer holidays downunder...). I like horses well enough, and am happy to go for a ride or a trek but know nothing about the care of them, and have no desire to have one or to have responsibility for one. DD is only with me every second week - exH has her the other week - and I work full time, generally 1 hour commute at the end of the day, 45 min in the morning, never home before 6pm.
A friend of mine is involved in a pony club on the other side of our major city (about 45 minutes each way on a good day) and has convinced me to join DD up as a Rider Without Horse to do some general learning about horses etc, and if they are lucky they may get a cool down ride on someone's pony at the end of the session. I thought this would be okay, and having to be patient might be good for her. Friend was going to take her to pony club on Saturdays. That's happened once. The next few apparently she is not available so I will have to take DD.
Today friend contacts me to say she's found a pony that would be perfect for DD and herself and that they could share the lease and would I like to be part of it.
I have no idea what to do, what to expect, what responsibilities I would have and the time required for these things. And how much it will all cost.
My thoughts are to say no, that DD needs to have a season at least to be sure she wants to go down this path, and for us to work out what exactly the requirements are. But friend is very keen - keeps sending me photos of the horse etc, and I'm also pretty sure she won't be able to not tell DD all about it (if she hasn't already). I try very hard to encourage new hobbies etc, but seriously - am I going to spend every evening driving at least 30 minutes further each way to check on the horse, how many hours picking up poo, feeding, waiting for riding to be done? I drive a very small car so no chance of being able to tow a float etc.
Help! What would you do? Am I being mean to say no? (DD will require braces in the next 12 months that will cost somewhere in the vicinity of $4000 from me as well).
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thiskiwicanfly · 19/11/2015 02:45
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