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AMcoffeeLover Fri 29-May-15 19:00:40

Been loitering for a while but need some help now!
So I have an old (27 years old, 18 in a school, 3 with me) school horse who had a hard life but is now enjoying a happily ever after smile he has 3 great paces - slow, slower and stop! And I love him that way. His main use is to cuddle me and the occasional "wonder over yonder" hack.
But there is a very pushy girl at the small yard I keep my boy at who keeps trying to "motivate" him! Started out with her giving tips and telling me to "boot him on", slap his bum as we go past and say trot on ect. This annoyed me but was tolerable.
When I first got him he was very whip shy, if he could see someone with one he would shy and rear. Now he's fine, he know I'll never use one and that's fine. But the whip fear has been coming back over the last few weeks and have just discovered that she's been going into the geldings field (she has a mare) and "training" him while i'm not there. angry using a whip angry I wondered why is head collar was moving around but assumed I was being silly and not paying attention to where I put it.
I'm hopping mad and as its on the (brand new) CCTV she can't deny it.
I want to go in yelling but know its not the right way to go. How do I approach this and make sure it NEVER happens again?
I know im over protective of him but he's mine and if I accept him as he is and pamper him then that's up to me.
I could explode i'm so angry.angry angry angry angry angry angry

loveareadingthanks Fri 29-May-15 19:04:37

Totally go in yelling! It's the only thing that will make someone this arrogant pay attention. and complaint to the yard manager/owner about her unauthorised 'borrowing' of your horse.

AMcoffeeLover Fri 29-May-15 19:06:29

The yard owner knows, she showed me the footage.
Seeing my little boy going through that has really broken my heart. Im camped out here with him, not leaving him alone till this is sorted. angry

Sausages123 Fri 29-May-15 19:09:14

I woukd be beyond fuming, your poor boy, why is the owner going to do about it, surely she holds some responsibly whilst you are not there?

Eve Fri 29-May-15 19:10:18

I'd be livid!!

SoldierBear Fri 29-May-15 19:12:00

That is awful. Who does she think she is?
And what action is the ur downer going to take?

ChannelingFlop Fri 29-May-15 19:12:27

That is awful! stand your ground. Poor old boy sad

Alayah Fri 29-May-15 19:13:39

I'd ask the yard owner to kick her off the yard. It's just not on.

Floralnomad Fri 29-May-15 19:16:28

I would be yelling , I would also be telling her that I would be getting the vet out to check him over next week and sending her the bill - I would also be pushing the yard owner to have her evicted .

MehsMum Fri 29-May-15 19:19:21

I'd be furious! I don't own a horse, but I knew enough NEVER to meddle with anyone else's when I'm up at the riding school.

coolaschmoola Fri 29-May-15 19:23:57

shock He's an old chap and she's chasing him around with a whip?! I'd be itching to chase her around with one; he's earnt the right to plod. She has NO business touching your horse, I'd be yelling at her. Who does she think she is?!

SoldierBear Fri 29-May-15 19:27:40

"ur downer"???

Yard owner. Duh.

AMcoffeeLover Fri 29-May-15 19:28:51

Yard owner will "have words with her" and as she's a very scary lady I'd hate to be in the girls shoes.
One of us is going to go over this - she leaves on her own or gets kicked out or we're going. I don't want to move him as he really doesn't travel well but if I have to to keep him safe them that's what we'll do.
Good point about the vet , i'm pretty sure he's ok but with her pulling on his head while whipping him could have caused damage. Especially to his arthritic knee (though it seems ok still) as he was pulling away.
is it criminal?

elastamum Fri 29-May-15 19:30:18

That is terrible, I would be livid (and I would show it). Tell her it is on CCTV and if she ever touches your poor old boy again you will report her to police and to the RSPCA for cruelty. Ask the yard owner to show her the CCTV and tell her to leave your horse alone or better still kick her out.

AMcoffeeLover Fri 29-May-15 19:38:11

Im plotting my revenge (the chance of me doing any of these things are very slim....I think) but just wanted to share the options with you all
A. Chase her and whip her
B. Smother her in the muck heap
C.Take a pitch fork to her new car
Any other suggestions for me to think over while I wait for the gates to lock so I know he'll be safe in him bed for the night?!

Floralnomad Fri 29-May-15 19:41:34

Might be worth taking a copy of the CCTV tape to the police and seeing what they say ,they may send someone round to at least give her a warning if there is nothing she can be charged with .

Eve Fri 29-May-15 19:42:04

Pulling his head while whipping him!!!!!!!

That's shocking!! You are entitled to do all 3 of your options!

How old is she?

meerschweinchen Fri 29-May-15 19:44:01

That's awful. Poor old boy sad

I was going to suggest getting the yard owner involved until I saw that you've already said that's what's going to happen. I hope she's doing it tomorrow and not leaving it any longer.

Hopefully the other girl will leave. If I was a yard owner there's no way I'd want someone on it who behaves like that.

Hope you're OK too. flowers I also have an oldie and think I'd be really shaken up and upset to find out about someone treating my pony like that.

AMcoffeeLover Fri 29-May-15 19:45:43

18 years old! hence being "girl" not "woman"
I can't believe her arrogance and over confidence that she knows how to deal with my snuggle monster!
Going to get a copy from the yard owner and keep it should things need to go further (such as justifying why I wrecked her car!)

fortunately Fri 29-May-15 19:48:29


You are absolutely correct to go in and go apeshit.

I'd seriously be spitting. She would know if she fucking touched my horse with a whip again I'd fucking touch her with a whip in ways which she definitely wouldn't like.

Little fucking bitch! angry

tomatodizzymum Fri 29-May-15 19:50:04

I'd be livid.

Tell her just what you said "I'm over protective of him but he's mine and if I accept him as he is and pamper him then that's up to me, I appreciate your trying to help but I want to do things my way so please do not go and train him, Thank you". Threaten her with more if she doesn't listen to that!

For what it's worth whips are cruel and outdated and none of our cowboys use them anymore (these are hardcore men who know A LOT about horses), so she is BANG out of order and an idiot to boot!

AMcoffeeLover Fri 29-May-15 19:51:06

I'm trying not to show i'm effected by it, he's so in tune with my emotions that it'll make him stressed.
The only time he's ever shown a vice is when I've MC and the vet put it down to seeing me upset. I got better (well as better as you can get) and the vices stopped. its a very strong emotional connection (hope you understand what I mean and don't think i'm crazy!)

AMcoffeeLover Fri 29-May-15 20:26:27

Thinking about it his behaviour has changed in the last couple of weeks.
Turning him out he's been slower than normal walking to the field and calling for me once I've shut the gate. And getting him in he's stopped playing. normally he gets a glint in his eye then walks away (like a young horse taking off to the other side of the field but in slow motion!) And if I've got time I can walk behind him and play at catching him or I can walk faster than him and catch him! But he's not done that lately.
And seeing a whip (even on the floor) has had him shying again.
I should have seens the signs that something was wrong sad

cuntycowfacemonkey Fri 29-May-15 20:34:26

Blimey I think you are more than within your rights to tear a strip off her! I wouldn't be remotely diplomatic about it and I agree either she goes or you move your horse.

Momagain1 Fri 29-May-15 20:36:13

Surely this is criminal? Why on earth did the yard owner not stop her? (i know nothing about horse ownership)

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