livery yard politics(8 Posts)
Whhhhhy do they have to be so bitchy & back stabby?
Went out with the farmer that owns the yard for a year or so.... when I got there was very quiet. No bitching or back stabbing.
Got lots of new
idiots who shouldn't own a dog, let alone a horse people arrive over the summer.
Used to ride in a little set aside paddock behind the barn (as long as was dry) and my little welshie was allowed to strip graze in there if she started getting too cresty for the main field.
New people have pregnant mare (didn't know was pregnant when they bought it) which is very anti social so is now turned out in our side paddock during the day.
So que nice weather.... I decide (when there mare is tucked u in bed for the evening) to don taxk & go for a little mooch round the paddock (after getting the nod from the farmer/ex of course)
Lone behold world war three has kicked off about me riding in their paddock.
Farmer defended me.... said I'm allowed so now apparently I'mgetting special treatment (anyones allowed to ride in there not just me)
They're upset about this but happy to ride in the field my mares are turned out in (I'm not bothered that they ride in there but I don't like riding in there myslf as I don't think its fair to ride a horse in the same field its turned out in)
Really pisses me off, after all the crap I had with the farmer after we broke up, he's finally behaving like an adult & we're gettimg on ok.... so the new people all kick off.... grrrrrrrr!!!!!
I think this is par for the course at livery yards (well most)
When I got my first horse, I remember pulling into the yard with the trailer, and a gaggle of bitches stood there, ready to criticise whatever came out. It was horrible,and I was so self conscious whenever I was in the sand school. Got used to it after a while though and was 'accepted'. But with horses there are bitches.
Moved off to a different yard with just a couple of others and it was completely different. Very laid back, everyone helped with eachothers horses etc.
That's what our yard used to be like, most of the horses are oldie hack horses, so none of that my horse is better than your horse stuff.
Its only since loads of new people came its gone that way :-(
My riding instructor says "jealousy is a strang thing" , it is annoying, stupid etc, but you just have to ignore it. Be as nice as pie, but let the farmer deal with it. He sets the rules, you just follow them.
Just don't engage with them.
It is one of the strangest things, that horse people are so bitchy.
Time and get to know them one at a time. But it is something we all go through.
Used to drive me mad on my old yard, there were several cliques who all used to ride out, have cups of tea, turn out/bring in for each other. The bitching was horrific, I can't be arsed with all that shit, if anyone said anything to me about someone I'd just smile sweetly and change the subject.n
We have the cliques but they seem to change and I can't keep up with who is currently talking to who!
Lots of people here seem to have issues with the 'riding paddock' too. Doesn't really affect me as dhorse and I both hate it in there (too slopey and slippery and too small for his long stride) so rarely use it. However certain people seem to think it's their right to use it for extra grazing so certain other people get the hump when they come to ride and there is a horse in there. And so it goes on...Boring!
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