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Insulted my horse - want to rant

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carabos Tue 05-Mar-13 12:15:50

There's a young woman who is a client at the same yard as me. She has a horse which has been off for 6 months with a serious tendon injury. Prior to the injury she was struggling to make any progress with it - prelim dressage level- as it is nappy, far too big for her, over fed and under-worked.

At the weekend she was passing the time of day while I tacked up my Prix St George horse for my lesson. She said that she was fed up with not riding and was looking for an all-rounder "like yours" to "just have a bit of fun on". She asked about mine - age, breeding etc and even though I explained that he is competing at FEI level and may do a Grand Prix later this year (with his professional rider my DH), she still said "something cheap and cheerful like that would suit me perfectly for the moment" shock.

My much admired horse was bred by me, from a mare owned by me, trained and competed by my husband and is currently worth about £40k.

Insult me, insult my kids, but don't insult my horse wink.

And breathe...

seeker Tue 26-Mar-13 12:03:06

There's a man at our yard who insists on referring to dd's lovely pony as "the nutter" or "the head case" because she gets incredibly distressed if she's put in a box for more than 10 minutes, and he once saw her shouting and weaving because she was unavoidably left in for a bit too long. She absolutely lovely in all other respects....We hate him!

gallifrey Tue 26-Mar-13 11:59:21

what a silly cow! She obviously doesn't have a clue!

A stupid bloke at my old yard said to me that I was so lucky to have bought such a well schooled horse and I only have to sit there and he does everything!

I was very pleased to tell him that I had owned my horse since he was a yearling and had backed and brought him on myself and he was working at medium level as a 6 yr old!

Stinkyminkymoo Tue 26-Mar-13 07:27:19

I just think it is so refreshing. I know Carl Hester has all his out at grass and hacks them out, but there's a dressage rider near me whose horses stables face inwards to an indoor school and they literally go from stable to school to stable and only get an hour in the field where they are so wrapped up they can barely move. That's no life for a horse.

Clearly the woman at your yard is cuckoo, but it's good for a laugh!! wink

carabos Sat 23-Mar-13 19:57:26

stinky he's three quarter TB and we bred him to event, which he did successfully as a novice until he broke a leg in competition. We love to take him for a fast spin, he loves to do it and he needs to be fit to do advanced dressage, so it's all good wink.

Stinkyminkymoo Sat 23-Mar-13 14:13:58

Carabos, just wanted to say, aside from the fact your horse is clearly gorgeous, how lovely it is to see an expensive dressage horse out having fun. I see in your videos that he goes out for a gallop lucky having a good gallopy field! as it seems to be a rare thing these days.


Backinthebox Thu 07-Mar-13 15:21:10

I used to have my county level show hunter at a dressage yard, and had to suffer plenty of ignorant comments about how showing is just a 'shiny pony contest' but doesn't require the same amount of hard work as dressage really. My horse was described as a handsome but plain chap, who was obviously not capable of learning the same kind of stuff their warmbloods were.

Then I got pregnant and asked the girls at the yard to help me out a bit.

The first thing that happened was that the one who rode him for me at shows realised getting a 17.3hh independently-minded monster with a huge sense of humour to perform in a ring of 18 horses at places like Windsor and Royal Berks shows is not as straight forwards as it looks. A massive amount of work has to go in behind the scenes before your horse is ready to be ridden by 'any old judge' in potential explosive situations. (Galloping in company past the yappy dog agility ring, anyone? grin Or how about trying to get them to not spook as they go past the end of the ring by the fairground. And my personal favourite - not tearing off in complete terror when the man with his display of honking geese that follow his microlight did a low fly-past!)

The next thing that happened was that they all had a little go at home in the school, and realised that he was a particularly well schooled and comfortable horse, just not educated in any movements that one might need beyond Novice dressage tests. They all wanted to ride him. I was paying for him to be ridden 3 times a week, but he was being ridden every day, sometimes twice. I had to ask for them to calm down a bit! They discovered he learnt very easily, and soon had him doing flying changes and canter pirouettes. They taught him about dressage and he taught them about jumping.

The general attitude was that they had no idea, until they rode him themselves. I think ignorance is very often the main cause of insults. I wouldn't sweat it over an idiotic statement from someone who clearly hasn't a clue about your horse, or by the sounds of it, any horse.

miggy Wed 06-Mar-13 20:45:41

That's actually so stupid it's funny, talk about make yourself look stupid!

My do not insult list runs horses then dogs then kids, they can say what they like about the cats smile

Ullena Wed 06-Mar-13 15:35:03

Perhaps she meant cheap and cheerful as in your horse looks easy to enjoy and is clearly a pleasure for you to ride? As opposed to generally scaring the crap out of its rider and currently off work due to an expensive injury!

Poor girl, lacking direction, druggy parents, sick horse that is already too much for her to handle, and awkward social graces sad Hope she grows into herself, and gets something she is confident on once her current horse has recovered. Also hope she doesn't end up following her parents on the drug front.

QuietTiger Wed 06-Mar-13 14:57:25

Tell you what Carabos, it is rare to see a horse that relaxed and happy in his work. He's beautiful. smile

DameFanny Tue 05-Mar-13 21:15:40

shock I had no idea you could get a horse to skip.

And now I have no idea how I got in here <blunders out sneezing at hay>

Eve Tue 05-Mar-13 20:58:34

What's the expression... All the gear, no idea!

tazzle22 Tue 05-Mar-13 20:13:52

wow what a credit to you both he is carabos ......... said female clearly knows nowt about horses or stressage. Even I know that you do not get to flying changes like that ( and so very relaxed its a pleasure to watch !!!!) without a lot of work and dedication never mind natural and athletic ability.

She is not in touch with reality if she thinks 3K will get a prix st georges gee gee shock

That might not get a good mannered fun allrounder wink

Some people try to insult my daughters 1/2 shire horse as she is a bit "saggy" and hairy ... but you know what I would not swap her or my "plain" welshie for anyone. Kids can play ball and bikes and trampoline in the yard and even crawl under their bellies and I know they will not move an inch. I can put toddlers on their backs and they will tread softly and slowly. I can give them a learner each and they will treat them gently...... yet when I get on they back up to a breath in, and move to a muscle twitch in a leg or a finger . However they can still give me a hard time if they are in the mood to go faster / eat grass out on hacks if they fancy a grin ( they only ever do that with people who think they can ride though !!!!!)

B is 22 and can still jump 4' so obviously being "saggy" does not hold her back grin ..... and she is priceless to us because of her temperament.

So yes, insult us but not our horses !!!!

carabos Tue 05-Mar-13 20:11:46

Ha Moonlight v funny, clever. grin

MoonlightandRoses Tue 05-Mar-13 20:06:33

Probably from Tiffany's and hanging around her neck though. wink

carabos Tue 05-Mar-13 20:02:25

Calamity I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt and assuming she's stupid. She's very much a pony club princess type, the parents have lots of money and like cocaine, she's hanging around at home not sure what she wants to do with her life and seems entirely empty-headed grin.

I'm sure she has a heart of gold wink.

CalamityKate Tue 05-Mar-13 19:56:35

Lets face it. She's either genuinely stupid or she's just being a cow deliberately.

lovebeansontoast Tue 05-Mar-13 19:50:32

tee hee. What a plonker.... or whatever the female version is. Your horse is lovely carabos. smile When I next rustle up 3k I'll call you. grin

I also insult mine. He is a very sweet elderly gentleman with the head of a schoolboy. Noone else is allowed to though. I left a yard when YM referred to him as "boring". She meant he has good manners, unlike her troop of idiot nutters. It still makes me cross.angry

horseylady Tue 05-Mar-13 18:52:22

Beautiful horse!!!

Clearly knows nothing!!

I call mine moose. In fact I'm fairly sure she thinks that's her name.... She gallops over when I call her!!

Booboostoo Tue 05-Mar-13 17:32:11

She sounds completely ignorant!

Someone needs to tell that poor "allrounder, cheap and cheerful horse" of yours that 15 tempis are sufficient, he looks like he could go on forever! grin

MoonlightandRoses Tue 05-Mar-13 16:59:50

Having looked at the video, if she's seen yours doing that and thinks 'it's a bit of fun/all rounder'...I can't wait to see what happens when she gets something not at all like DH(orse) and tries for the same competitions grin grin

I try to avoid 'stressage' myself, for the very reason that while it looks amazing, it's bloody difficult to get right.

[Sticks elbows out and heads off over a few ditches on hunter...]

DolomitesDonkey Tue 05-Mar-13 16:52:04

And I've I insulted his winky! wink

Well, having watched the video - I wouldn't mind an all-rounder like that myself. grin

Am feeling wistful, my mare did those beautiful flying changes until her arthritis kicked in.

countingto10 Tue 05-Mar-13 16:51:16

My DH insulted my DHorse. He went to an antiques fair and bought me an old print with a picture of a very, VERY similar looking horse saying it reminded him of DHorse - underneath the print was the inscription "Cart Cob" hmm grin.

DHorse is priceless to me ..........

carabos Tue 05-Mar-13 16:28:17

Thank you all for the compliments. All our horses are gorgeous, of course they are, and they're special to us, and I wouldn't dream of undermining anyone else's idea of specialness.

One of the most admired horses on our yard is a steady Eddie cob, part Shire, who you could ride all day and who is the horse for all of our dotage years. He's the one that a couple of liveries "wouldn't be seen dead on" hmm - they should count their blessings, plenty of people would give their eye teeth for a horse like him.

Ranthambore Tue 05-Mar-13 15:39:41

She obviously wants to have a bit of fun 'skipping around the field' like in your link grin and fails to see the quality of the horse.

He is beautiful.

Only I am allowed to insult my horses. Anyone else dare and I'll be after them with a pitchfork. I was recently offered similar money for my eventer who is CCI* * * level currently sadly not riden by me competitively anymore - obviously a 'good all rounder' there.

carabos Tue 05-Mar-13 15:22:03

CMOTDibbler he does get insulted a lot, and deserves it (dropped me and broke my wrist a year ago) but I'll be the one doing the insulting please grin. The girl said she had some money from Xmas - about 3k- and that was what she wanted to spend to get a horse like mine <rofl>.

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