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User1053051066 · 27/11/2019 23:12

Well, there might be a few.
One in particular will literally step over me to get what she wants, very very politely undermines me, changes things to suit herself, has such a manner that screams arrogance but I wonder if it's insecurities?? Very full of confidence in her usual surroundings. Awkward out of her comfort zone. Ideally I'd like to report her behaviour to the boss but I don't think I can. I think it will be seen as being petty and although I trust our boss to deal with it, I don't know how he will view the news.
I feel invisible in the staff room- until I speak, I am not ignored, but until then, a few of them will just not include me in conversation. Very frosty. This relates to 3 members of staff, who, alone, are very nice, but together, and to definitely include the one I've mentioned, almost thrive on making someone feel awkward.

How do I deal with this? I was part time for 1 year in a different department then moved to this dept when I went full time 8 months ago. Previous to that I have never come across this behaviour so not sure how to deal with it.

TIA

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BackforGood · 27/11/2019 23:19

One in particular will literally step over me to get what she wants,

why are you lying on the floor ?

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User1053051066 · 27/11/2019 23:30

Because to contour someone who is very careful about what she does, makes the whole situation awkward. I just move on politely. How do you say "don't undermine me please" to someone without it coming back and biting you in the ass, when you work in an establishment of 8 people?

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GreyGardens88 · 27/11/2019 23:32

Always amazes me how 99% of grown adults don't seem to realise the workplace isn't the playground! Just ignore them and get on with your work and then go home to your real life

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elephantoverthehill · 27/11/2019 23:39

My advice would be to talk to the outliers and ignore the clique. I always get on better with the dinner ladies, office staff, LSAs and caretakers.

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Piggywaspushed · 28/11/2019 19:29

As one who has once been 'reported to the boss' for apparently freezing someone out can I ask what you think it is that your colleague is actually doing worthy of reporting?? The way you have written it does indeed sound petty, I'm afraid.