I am assistant head in a secondary school, due to another member of staff being seriously ill I am expecting next year to be even busier than normal. I have also taken on 4 additional periods of teaching for budgetary reasons, and am "looking after" a department where we have not managed to recruit a HoD. Apart from the additional teaching all these other things are temporary and we are working really hard to fix them quickly. However even without them I ended last year ill and am really only just recovering now. All through term time I am so stressed I just want to climb into a safe place and wait it out!
However I do work in a good supportive school and I do enjoy my job often. Much of the stress is driven by my own worries. I really feel that I need to set and stick to some boundaries to be successful and happy - has anyone managed to make real changes like this?
I have sort of divided them down:
- Time
Of course I bring work home, but often I will be in school 07:30-17:30, then start again 20:00-23:00. If this was urgent work I could cope but I know I am being slow, unproductive and wasting time. Does anyone else apply time boundaries and stick to them?
- Email
I hate it. Every single time and email drops into my inbox I think "what fresh hell is this" and get the sick feeling in my stomach. I want to switch if off much of the time, but then fear missing something urgent. My head never sends late emails, it is always other staff members contacting me, but they do expect me to reply at all hours.
- Exam Fear
You know the one about losing your job! Every year I have thought this will improve and it doesn't. Obviously I don't want to not care, but has anyone successfully rationalised it?
- Personal boundaries
One of my HoDs has had some personal issues. We work closely together on a range of things. She now texts me lots in the evening. I want to remove this, but at the same time SLT is a bit lonely I don't want to make someone feel negatively about me - any thoughts? She honestly needs support.