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Littlepeoplehere Mon 04-Mar-19 22:28:22

Due to the intensity of the job and time spent together, is this common between staff members ?

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elephantoverthehill Mon 04-Mar-19 22:30:28

Not in my book as I rarely make it to the staffroom.

DrMadelineMaxwell Mon 04-Mar-19 22:31:38

2 of our staff met through work and are now married with kids. It's not for me but they seem to be happy.

C0untDucku1a Mon 04-Mar-19 22:32:24

I often wondered how people who have affairs at work in a school find the time.

PurpleDaisies Mon 04-Mar-19 22:33:24

Mostly women in my staff room.

Choccywoccyhooha Mon 04-Mar-19 22:36:23

Every school I've worked in has been a hotbed of sex. (Not actually IN the staffroom though shock).
So much shagging.

Littlepeoplehere Mon 04-Mar-19 22:43:15

I can see why! I wondered if it was just me that thought it might be a thing . Hours together all day, meals together, emotional highs and lows together , support given and received in spades .depending on the school I guess.

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noblegiraffe Mon 04-Mar-19 22:44:55

Time spent together? I spend the vast majority of my time with my classes, rarely see my colleagues and it’s usually in meetings.

EvilTwins Mon 04-Mar-19 22:47:16

I don’t work in a school any more but when I did, I could go from one end of the day to the next without seeing another adult for long enough to say hello, let alone to start an affair.

That said, two colleagues did get together and marry, but that was down to lift sharing when they went on a course that happened over a period of time.

cricketballs3 Tue 05-Mar-19 06:11:59

Not in every school I've worked in apart from one which at one point had 3 married couples and a lot of affairs going on

SagelyNodding Tue 05-Mar-19 06:20:52

In my last school, yes! Some very indiscreet affairs going on... Current school? As far as I can tell everyone is too professional!

abcriskringle Tue 05-Mar-19 06:22:23

I worked at a (very odd) school once where basically everyone was sleeping with everyone else - it was an independent school and essentially over-staffed so unlike the usual experience of teaching, there were a large number of frees in which to socialise. However, in a standard comprehensive- no. I hardly have time to go to the loo let alone anything else.

Jackshouse Tue 05-Mar-19 06:26:09

Only SLT. Maybe they have more time on their hands.

Holidayshopping Tue 05-Mar-19 20:08:43

Hours together all day, meals together, emotional highs and lows together , support given and received in spades

This really isn’t the case in my experience!

In every school I’ve worked in, I’ve spent hours alone-well, aside from the children, obviously, but you are in the classroom and can see no other adults for hours! Classroom teaching can be quite an isolated job really. People rarely go in the staff room either since the lunchbreak has been shortened. In fact, the school up the road has removed the staff room altogether!

shitpark Sat 09-Mar-19 02:34:13

I've seen male teachers flirting with parents, sometimes just staring at them.

WooWooCocktail Sat 09-Mar-19 02:36:05

Yes. Lots of couples. Lots of FWB. Lots of shagging.

FoldyRoll Sat 09-Mar-19 02:54:12

My DB is married to his head of department. I've not asked about any other carry on because.... DB. envy

junebirthdaygirl Sat 09-Mar-19 06:54:26

Good friend married a guy off staff. He moved to another school.
In dcs school there was a spate of instaff weddings. A lot of young staff started together so l suppose it was inevitable some would hit it off.
Most schools l have been in have been mainly women with a scattering of men so so affairs.

Cismyfatarse1 Sun 10-Mar-19 14:22:04

I am massively attracted to someone in our staff room. But, we have been married for 20 years and I worked at the school long before he got a job there.

PaleBlueChiffon Sun 10-Mar-19 15:03:12

There's one bloke in the nearest ten primary schools under 40. All the young ones are/were delira about him.

We did a local training session and all of us oldies were so disappointed when this fairly ordinary fella walked in!

thebookeatinggirl Mon 11-Mar-19 06:51:23

It definitely happens.

I know a school where there are 3 married couples, all six originally teaching there, and I taught at a school where the Head had an affair with the Y6 teacher, while both married to someone else. They ended up together, both divorced and still are together 10 years later, but it cost the Head his job, or at least he had to resign.

I think it depends on the school. The first Primary, 2 form entry, always had lots of male teachers, over many years. Not sure how/why, it just did. And lots of Primary schools are very friendly, intense places with people popping in and out of classrooms and working closely together.

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