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Teaching and mum - how the f***?

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BananaBlaps Tue 05-Jun-18 20:29:52

How do people make it work?
Currently have a 16 month old and am pregnant.
Currently work 0.6 at the school I was at before mat leave.
1 hrs commute to central London so I can’t do drop offs. My husband starts work at 7. Also can’t do drop offs.
So cos of this currently my mum looks after DC when I’m at work.

But that childcare situation is pretty shit and can’t can’t continue once the new baby is here. I’ll leave current job and try and find a local PT job I guess after my mat leave / 2nd baby is old enough - but there is sod all PT available atm so not full of hope.

Working PT is pretty crap as a teacher anyway.

How the hell do people manage nursery pick up and drop offs with teaching?

With my husband’s hours he could do neither pick up or drop off. I don’t think it’s possible for me to do both without my school being 5 mins from nursery.

Feel like my career is over, I have no choice over what work I could get and that the whole thing is pretty shit for me.

Any advice?

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Wait4nothing Tue 05-Jun-18 20:34:16

I do most drop offs and pick ups but work 10 mins from nursery. So drop at 7.30 (opening time - nursery chosen because of earlier opening) then drive to work - in at about 7.50 - pick up between 5.30 and 6 (closing time). Dh can drop and pick but needs notice as his commute is about 40 mins and he could get stuck in traffic.
I work 0.6 (3 days) and find it ok in terms of workload. Try to only work 2/3 evenings a week and nothing at the weekend - I usually do need to do a bit in the holidays.

sluj Tue 05-Jun-18 20:39:53

Sorry to be blunt but you just have to search for paid childcare like every other working mother. The good news is that you might be able to save some money by not needing childcare through those long holidays if you get the right package.
It's not easy for anybody but being a part time teacher with local parents makes it a lot easier for you. Good luck with your search

SweepTheHalls Tue 05-Jun-18 20:41:32

You need to move to a school closer to home, it's the only way to make it work with childcare.

yellowsnail Tue 05-Jun-18 20:42:16

You could look for a school with a nursery attached

FogCutter Tue 05-Jun-18 20:42:40

My friend is a teacher and has nursery age kids. She has them in the closest private nursery to her own school (not near her home) which is open 8-6 so she can drop them 5 mins before she's due at work and doesn't have to leave work till 5.50 if needed.

FogCutter Tue 05-Jun-18 20:43:45

Of and the nursery she uses does term time only contracts for teachers which saves her quite a bit of money.

parrotonmyshoulder Tue 05-Jun-18 20:44:43

I had a part time nanny when mine were small. She looked after the youngest and took the eldest to preschool/ school.

Now I’m full time and use a childminder. Their school and childminder are half way to my school. Early drop off (7.30) but works okay for us.

I’m not saying it’s perfect. Not at all. But my specialism is niche and my choice is limited.

Summerthunder Tue 05-Jun-18 20:46:34

A nursery with longer open hours (Ours is 6:30am - 6:30pm) or a nanny/childminder who will come to your home so you don’t have to drop off anymore.

parrotonmyshoulder Tue 05-Jun-18 20:48:38

I have to say, our nanny who came to our house in the mornings made our lives so much easier for that time. She had her own child at the same preschool as DD, so everything worked out beautifully for us.

Awrite Tue 05-Jun-18 20:49:44

I used the nursery right next door to my school.

However, my dh did the wraparound care drop offs and pickups while at primary.

Going PT somehow makes women's jobs less important that men's. I stayed full time. My job is important too. Dh shares the load.

HMC2000 Tue 05-Jun-18 20:51:38

sluj that's exactly what the OP is trying to do - she's talking about the difficulty of finding paid childcare that starts early enough for her to be able to drop off with enough time to get to school. She's had to fall back on family because she can't find suitable paid childcare.

user1471530109 Tue 05-Jun-18 20:53:01

Nursery close to your school.

But I didn't do the long days. I dropped off at 8 and managed to get to work by 8.15. not ideal, but we all copied.

I then collected them between 4-4.45. on the odd occasion for twilight session etc, 5.30.

If I need to do work at home, it would be done after kids in bed.

I'm secondary though.

Of course you can do it! I managed as a single mother to 2dc (full time but would have loved to go out). It's hard work. But I think every working mother has the same.

The only thing I find against teaching and being a mother (there are lots of positives) is that you miss out on stuff schools put on in the day. Assemblies etc. I'm v lucky that my head often says yes to time off for this.

HelenaJustina Tue 05-Jun-18 20:55:54

A nanny might work for you, especially if you could offer a ‘mostly’ term time contract and she had older school age DC...

Am thinking Mum of a teenager who might want to be around for them in the holidays but not need to be there for them after school as much.

Otherwise, nearer school/nursery.

tomhazard Tue 05-Jun-18 21:02:24

I work as a teacher and my dh works early. We use a childminder for before and after school and my mum does 1 for us.
You have to be organised and relentless in making plans.

BananaBlaps Tue 05-Jun-18 21:07:37

HMC thanks for reading my post properly grin

At the moment DH and I both leave the house by 6.30 am. Would it be possible to get a nanny to start that early? Or has anyone heard of that happening?

I guess I’m feeling fed up as I definitely can’t go back to my current school - it’s just too far and I’m not happy there anyway. But the chance of finding a local school PT job close to nursery seems so unlikely.

So I’ll be quitting my job with no idea what I’ll get in the end. Which is daunting. And makes me feel a bit shit! In a way it’d be easier to just go full time.

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BananaBlaps Tue 05-Jun-18 21:09:31

The earliest nurseries open near me is 7.30.
And I’m not taking two under threes on the tube for an hour at 7 am!

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BananaBlaps Tue 05-Jun-18 21:11:48

tom what time can you drop off at childminder? I’ve not found any that are before 7.30.

Again this all points to me needing a local job but if I want to stay PT I don’t know how likely that is.

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sluj Tue 05-Jun-18 21:33:28

But I don't get what makes the OPs position any worse than anyone else's outside teaching? In many ways, she has an easier task to find and afford part time childcare. She also has a parent who may be able to cover for sickness etc. It's the same dilemma for everyone trying to work and have children.
I never saw an assembly or a sports day either 😏

parrotonmyshoulder Tue 05-Jun-18 21:35:13

She doesn’t say it’s worse. She’s posting in the staffroom. For school staff.

greathat Tue 05-Jun-18 21:39:20

In my experience very few pt jobs are advertised but most decent school will accept part time applicants if you ask

sluj Tue 05-Jun-18 21:39:37

Oh I see......special

FogCutter Tue 05-Jun-18 21:40:50

Could your husband make a flexible working request to start work later on your work days so he can do the drop off then you can do the pick up?

Notevilstepmother Tue 05-Jun-18 21:42:52

How about asking to spread your 0.6 over 5 days so you start at 10 everyday?

Put the request in soon so they can timetable it.

SweepTheHalls Tue 05-Jun-18 21:43:31

Are you a shortage subject?

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