DCs have been at their independent school for about 6 years. I've never spoken to the Head Teacher in person ever, just a mere nod or smile, mostly because I work FT and not at many school events.
At parent/teacher night I mistakenly brought DCs (school had sent out a letter asking that they not come but I forgot). In retrospect I couldn't leave them at home - I've been single for the last 4 years and ex lives hours away. I would have practically been able to get a babysitter for a 5 minute meeting anyway.
So at the parent teacher night the head teacher saw me with the children, told me they shouldn't be there and asked that they wait in a classroom while I see the teacher (rather than in the waiting area with the other parents). She was polite but I was a bit embarrassed about being chastised and mumbled something along the lines of 'I'm so sorry, I'm single and don't have anyone I can leave them with.' To which she replied, 'Oh yes, I know.'
ACK! Why does she know this? I've never told the school, communication still goes to both Ex DP and I, there's nothing formal to indicate this unless I just look like a woman scorned. If my 10 year old DC said something at school about her parents not being together, would this get back to the head teacher? Or do they keep some sort of demographic record of the children?
I'm mortified. I really felt judged - and already feel shitty being the outcast single parent at a school filled with posh married mums.
I'm not a teacher but posting in the staffroom for views from those who work in schools. Thanks!
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Head teacher knows my marital status - is this normal?
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windygallows · 22/02/2018 22:23
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