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job I like - but approx 1h30 min drive drilemma

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worriednow1 Wed 14-Jan-15 06:54:56

we are young family. 2 kids primary school. new job - possibility to put kids there ( subject to assessment, private school + discount). BUT it is 1.30 min drive... My DH works near home - 5 min walk...BUT he earns less that I earn. We rent at the moment so we not particularly tied in to the house...but we like the house we live at present and the community feel. I feel that if I calculate too much, think pros and cos, I will never do the leap.
the reasons to change the job, I am not happy at my present job and also the secondary schools in the area not great...How would you appraoch this dilemma please? I think without a leap/ taking risk I will never change, I am getting older and worried that the time is ticking for career move..Thank you

Asleeponasunbeam Wed 14-Jan-15 06:58:49

As you're renting and sound flexible, it could be okay. You could move if you needed to. I wouldn't do it as I have young DC and DH works very long hours. But it doesn't dound a terrible idea for you.

CharlesRyder Wed 14-Jan-15 07:00:51

I think if you are going into the Independent sector wait for a job that comes with a house.

I wouldn't want to drive 1h30min to work and I definitely wouldn't expect DS to cope with it so for me that job would only be a consideration if I moved.

beatricequimby Wed 14-Jan-15 21:22:31

Don't do it unless you are prepared to move. A full time teaching job with 3 hours a day of travel will make your life miserable.

FabulousFudge Wed 14-Jan-15 22:02:37

I would jump at the job but move closer. It will be too long a day and too much time in a car each day for your children.

Ridingthestorm Thu 15-Jan-15 16:57:16

If your DH drives, why don't you look at moving half way between jobs? I travel 55 minutes to my job and have done for 8 years. DH travels for 30 minutes but works less hours so can do the childcare drop offs and pick ups.

If your job is by far the biggest earner and you hate your current working environment, then they are pros that far outweigh the pros of staying where you are.

Have you spoken to your DH about this? You may like the area and the house but you also may like where you move to, too.

Middleagedmotheroftwo Thu 15-Jan-15 17:01:51

Don't forget that the kids are likely to make friends with other kids that also live 90 mins away, possibly more if they live in the other direction, and there may be school sporting activies on weekends. You may find yourself doing the commute on weekends too, and after school play dates etc would make life difficult.

molesbreath Thu 15-Jan-15 17:05:01

Your Dh walks to work ? Can he get there by a different way if you were to move ?

Not all independent schools come with housing so you might be waiting a long time for one of those to turn up.

You are unhappy, in a rented house. I would definitely move ( maybe halfway as a compromise )

worriednow1 Thu 15-Jan-15 21:02:54

i would probably not move my kids and my hb and house for 1 year...and commute for one year just it is riskh to move everything in one go. then mive house after 1 year?

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