Would you be annoyed to receive a note from a parent.........

[NellysKnickers]

...pointing out a teacher's spelling mistake in a 'Think Again'slip? I have written the note in dc1's contact book. He also got another Think Again' for shouting at a little shit a classmate for whipping him with a wet towel, they are yr4 and unsupervised when changing for swimming. In my note I have also mentioned this and said that he can defend himself by shouting at this child, I don't expect him to just stand there and take it. Am I being one of 'those' parents? Its so hard to actually speak to someone at the school, I thought a note would be best.

[Chocotrekkie]

I personally wouldn't point out the spelling mistake at the same time as bringing up the behaviour issue.

The behaviour one needs addressed and the spelling mistake will overshadow it.

[NellysKnickers]

I know Choco, its just me being pissy really but a teacher should be abe to spell inappropriate correctly, it was spelt inapproprapiate . I am now rewriting the note to address the swimming issue only, thanks for input, much appreciated

[petalpower]

The teacher was probably writing the note in a hurry.

[rollonthesummer]

Ask the teacher what she would expect him to do if someone flicked him with a towel. I wouldn't say shouting was a good solution-I'd suggest he told an adult, but if there wasn't one, then what? How long are they unsupervised for?

[Reminder]

Tbh I don't think either of those issues are best dealt with by way of a note

[Neitheronethingortheother]

No I definitely wouldnt do something as petty as point out a spelling mistake especially if I was going to speak to the teacher about my child. It would seem counter intuitive to do something like that.

[NigellasDealer]

they are always unsupervised for swimming changing so that teachers cannot be accused of inapproprapiate behaviour, it is like lord of the flies in there i tell ya.
perhaps let the spelling go it does just sound pissy and could have been a genuine 'in a rush' mistake.

[starfishmummy]

Surely a note asking to speak to the teacher would be better?

[NellysKnickers]

Thanks all, I have removed the spelling comment and written one re the swimming, pointing out that I know ds is no angel, but I will not have him being attacked by this child and worrying he will be in trouble for defending himself

[Reminder]

What do you expect to be the outcome of that note?

[NellysKnickers]

I expect them to address the issue of bad behaviour and punish the instigators not those being attacked, again, I know ds isnt an angel and I may not have the full story, I usually let things go but feel this must be dealt eith.

[Reminder]

but you've said you want him to be able to defend himself, which they can never agree to. Maybe what you mean to say hasn't come across in your post but that's why it would be better o arrange to discuss it face to face or by phone.

IMO the real issue is the lack of supervision. There really is no resonance staff shouldn't be in the changing room

[NigellasDealer]

the thing is reminder, there is a reason why there are no staff in the changing room, that is why it is policy in most schools.

[Reminder]

It's really not

[NigellasDealer]

IME it is

[TeamHank]

Nellys, I would get teacher's side of the story before defending your son - he may be lying to you to avoid being in trouble!

[TeamHank]

Oh and I always supervised changing, just made sure I had another adult with me.

[NellysKnickers]

Team, one step ahead, have been through it all a few times with ds, he knows my fury will be unleashed if he is lying! Im going to volunteer to help out with changing, Ive had a recent crb and ds2 is in preschool.

[GW297]

Children should not be unsupervised when changing for swimming. I would challenge the school on this.

[kritur]

I have had to supervise Y7 girls changing for swimming in the past (when on a PE cover...) It surprised me how many didn't know how to sort out the straps on their cossies! The spelling mistake is most likely from rushing. I would ask to speak to the teacher about the whipping and shouting rather than send a note.

[ladygracie]

I know this is not quite relevant but: Children should be supervised when they change for swimming. Adults are not 1:1 with children while changing but I have never worked in a school where they are not supervised even if that is someone hovering in the doorway.