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Tired, pregnant, teacher guilt, can I ring in ill with just pure knackeredness?

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RainbowsFriend Wed 12-Jun-13 13:23:30

23month DD doesnt sleep well. Never has. She did at Christmas start giving me a 5 hour stretch at night but due to 2 rapid house moves (sold our house but purchase fell through so moved in with inlaws, -stressfull- now in a rental flat with no garden) she has gone back to 2 hourly wakings.

.. except my milk has dried up due to pregnancy so a quick bfeed doesnt resettle her anymore.

I work part time in an excellent but high pressure secondary. From Christmas to half term I did not have a single lunch break or break free due to revision extras for exam classes etc. HUGE pressure to get results.

So it was 90 mph at school then straight to get DD who is also 90mph until she finally conks out some point between 8.30 - 10.30pm (despite consistently keeping her in bedroom from 8pm... )

I'm now 21 weeks with SPD, our new HOD has decided that ALL our SOWs need reviewing and "amending" hmm along with the resources so there goes all gained time plus some.

I have anxiety issues anyway which are now through the roof due to stress, I'm having 2 migraines a week that I can take fuck all for due to being pregnant, and I can't do it.

My day off today and poor DD has been sat in front of cbeebies all morning as I just cant get any energy to do more than feed us both toast and milk.

WIBU to send DD to the childminders tomorrow and just sleep? I can't catch up at the weekends as DD just wants me - is incredibly clingy and so gets soo upset if DP tries to take her that it's not actually restful at all.

I'm actually sat here crying.

Fraxinus Wed 12-Jun-13 16:02:43

Oh no, rainbow, I am so sorry to hear you are under so much pressure. You should not be at work with a migraine. Please take a day off and allow yourself to recover, and go home sick the minute a headache strikes.

specialmagiclady Wed 12-Jun-13 18:16:08

I would second the above. You sound like you would be a rubbish teacher tomorrow anyway.wink

On the OH thing, get him to Take. Her. Away. If they are doing something exciting together - park, swimming etc, she will forget she misses you so much. When the baby comes, she will end up spending a lot of time with him. Best not to make it about the baby, just about them doing lovely stuff together.

RainbowsFriend Wed 12-Jun-13 18:57:06

Thank you. I know I need to just sleep and kick this migraine - I think it's actually the same one that keeps coming back as I never get rid of it properly.

Lol at Take Her Away grin you are soooooo right smile I have got him to take her away before but somehow he only managed an hour before they have to come back for some reason... hmm

Fraxinus Wed 12-Jun-13 19:35:08

I had a headache for the whole fourth and fifth month. I was completely incapacitated and signed off sick the whole time at work, and it was my first so no other kids to look after!

You must take sick leave when you are unwell. You will only get into such an exhausted and stressed state that your body will respond by giving you a serious health problem.

It sounds like your workplace is highly stressful, too. Try not to allow other people's unhealthy work - life balance force you to have the same. Easier said than done.

Have a well earned day of rest tomorrow, and talk to your gp.

StabInTheDark Wed 12-Jun-13 22:11:11

Just want to second the others- day off!! Or you'll be no use to anybody wink

Sending you a hug and a gentle nudge to visit your GP x

QueenofLouisiana Wed 12-Jun-13 22:20:56

Don't go in. Teaching isn't a job which lets you get stuck in to quiet paperwork while you recover- you won't be up to a full on day.

Hope you feel better after a rest.

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