As an ex Primary school teacher I was always careful never to share one parent's concerns/complaints with another parent. I always believed if a parent had a worry that whatever they told the school would not be passed on.
At the end of Year 6 when the children pick their friendship groups I went to my sons teacher and expressed my worries over my son being with one child in the class through high school. I never have had a problem with this child, however he had real difficulties with all the other boys in his class except my son. My son often stuck up for him and I was proud of that. What I was worried about was the boy would be so reliant on my son, and my son's ability to fight his battles, that my son would never make new friends. I was worried they would be isolated together.
I confidentially mentioned my concerns to the Primary school, who I expected would mention it to the Secondary school.
I have now found out from the parent of the other child that she was told I didn't want my son any where near her son, that I had a major problem with him! I imagine this was a complete shock and made her feel more than awful! She is disgusted by what looks like my betrayal of her and her son- it was nothing personnal and I like the other boy.
I am disgusted with the secondary school, who I believe betrayed my confidence to get themselves out of a sticky situation, but they didn't confirm anything with me and made things so much more personal than it was.
Was I really wrong to believe I was in a situation where my confidence should have been upheld?
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gillsid · 17/05/2013 22:00
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