I'm currently doing PGCE in a primary school. Last week I was helping out in an outdoor learning session for the first time with teachers I've not worked with before. It was with a mixed class from years 2-6 doing activities and some elements of the curriculum in the outdoor learning centre (a field and a few trees). This was an enrichment group, hence the wide age range, so there were children I hadn't met before as they are in a year group I haven't worked with.
A small group of the year 6s were picking on a boy and a girl from year 4. It started out with the year 6s singing marriage songs at the others because they were working together. This escalated into setting up a mock wedding and trying to force the year 4 dc to go through a fake wedding scene. By this time the younger girl was fairly unhappy and tried to run away and one of the year 6s chased after her to try to drag her back. It was only at this stage when the teachers intervened. Both of the teachers, the TA and I saw and heard all this. I feel really terrible, but because they decided to let it run its course I just stood by with the other adults feeling unsure about what to do. I feel like we should have intervened much earlier but I'm not sure how I could have done that without looking like I was undermining the teachers whose class this was. I understand that teachers can't mediate every little disagreement but this girl seemed upset and it was a group of older children upsetting 2 younger children.
A mediation session has now been arranged between the year 4s and two of the year 6s and relevant parents, so hopefully the situation is being dealt with properly. But for future reference, at what stage should I have intervened? I would instinctively have sent one of the groups to a different bit of field when the singing started, but the teachers whose class this was chose to hold back.
On the way back to school the year 6s started singing the wedding song again and I was the closest adult then so I told them to drop it straight away. At that stage they started saying that it was a joke. I explained that one of the main aims of the enrichment is that the year 6s teach the younger ones how to behave and that they were setting a poor example. At this point one of them put his hand on my shoulder and said something about how I shouldn't be upset about them playing wedding games just because I'm not married. I had no idea how to deal with this so I just told them to hurry up and walk a bit faster because they were making a gap in the line walking back to school. Should I have pushed his hand away from me? I stepped back so that his hand fell away but I think that probably made him realise that it made me uncomfortable. Does anyone have any good phrases which I can recycle next time something serious and unexpected like this happens? My supervisor laughed this off when I explained it and the class teacher of the boy concerned said she would keep an eye on it.
I'm not sure I'm cut out for this. I knew primary school was going to involve teaching social skills as well, and to some extent that's always going to be a subjective answer, but this has really got me worked up. I feel like I ignored a bullying issue because the other adults were too and that I handled the comments on the way back really badly too. What should I have done?
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Mooook · 03/12/2012 19:09
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