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Grieving cat?

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ranoutofquinoaandprosecco · 28/10/2020 22:05

Unfortunately we lost our black cat to a rta, nearly 2 weeks ago. Huge shock to me and the kids. We also have her sister who was from the same litter but I didn't think they were close or they didn't snuggle together. If they passed each other they would sniff but that was about it.
However today, our cat isn't herself, she's looking out of all the windows is very vocal but won't settle. I think she's really tired as she hasn't slept today.
My question is do we just keep on keeping an eye on her and lots of nice nibbles (she's not overweight). There are a couple of rescue kittens we could adopt but I'm not sure how she would feel about them? Any ideas please?

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TheLongRider · 29/10/2020 00:30

It is very possible that she's missing the other cat. Did she get to see the body? It sounds weird but I've found that most cats seem to understand if they can see and sniff the dead cat.

It's hard for both cars and owners when a pet dies. Be kind to yourself, don't rush in to replacing your cat. Your remaining cat may find she prefers being an only cat. Having said all that, if you think you are able to take on new cats and integrate them, go ahead. There's no timeline.

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tootyfruitypickle · 29/10/2020 06:48

Sorry for your loss OP. This happened to my cat and her sister missed her terribly - but the grieving lasted 3 weeks at its worst, she then went on to live a very happy and long life. I also thought about getting her a new companion, but didn't, and she has been happy.

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KenDoddsDad · 29/10/2020 06:51

So sorry to hear this, OP. The exact same thing happened to us some years ago, and our other cat (who wasn’t related to the one we sadly lost) grieved very noticeably for a couple of weeks.

We did go on to adopt another kitten about a month later and have not once regretted it.

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ranoutofquinoaandprosecco · 29/10/2020 08:01

Thanks for the replies.
She's a bit brighter this morning. Slept in her favourite hiding place and has had some breakfast.
I'll keep a close eye on her and see how she is. We could accommodate kittens no problem but I don't want to do that and her hate them!

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tootyfruitypickle · 29/10/2020 08:35

I think it really was pretty much exactly 3 weeks on that mine perked up. It was so heartbreaking, she sat by the cat flap and waited . But she was back to her old self within a month .

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