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Is this normal or am I mad?

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brw55 Fri 28-Aug-20 07:52:28

Hi everyone,

I’ve just got a new kitten and wanted to check if this is normal...and I’m talking about myself not the kitten 😂

But I am anxious about her all the time, I can’t bear to leave her and am now stressing about even popping into the office or a weekend away that isn’t planned for months. She is just so tiny and cute and I’m so worried about her being happy and not ever feeling lonely or scared but on the other hand I’m also aware I need a life too! She seems very happy, plays a lot and spends most of the day asleep or eating. She’s still a little jumpy when I walk in but sleeps next to me and seems to be getting more confident each day so I know she’s fine.

Is this just new kitten nerves?! Please tell me you all felt like this too and I haven’t gone completely crazy! I’ve grown up with cats but somehow her being completely mine has made me lose all rational thought!

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Fluffycloudland77 Fri 28-Aug-20 08:43:20

Well they need cuddles at this age. When she’s older this sums it]]

Fluffycloudland77 Fri 28-Aug-20 08:44:54

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats Fri 28-Aug-20 09:23:27

This is why a lot of people get kittens in pairs - they keep each other company and keep the pressure off you.

Is it too late to get another one?

Paranoidmarvin Sat 29-Aug-20 06:52:30

I used to feel like this with my last dog. Stressed the whole time. It will fade. Especially as they get older. My cat barely notices me some days. Especially in the summer where it can go off for a few days and chase butterflies and lay in the sun.
It will fade.

Fluffycloudland77 Sat 29-Aug-20 07:26:03

Not everyone can afford two kittens so don’t worry op. My cat cost a fortune but was worth it.

brw55 Sat 29-Aug-20 13:29:03

Thanks everyone for your replies!

@Fluffycloudland77 that’s exactly the situation, I’d love a second kitten but twice the vets bills/food/cat sitter is not sustainable for me at the moment. Does yours seem ok alone? I work from home now so she has loads of attention from me but so many posts on here seem to think it’s cruel to only have one and now I’m totally questioning myself!

@Paranoidmarvin your cat sounds amazing! Mine is only 10 weeks but already sleeps for most of the day so I’m hoping how chilled she is continues!

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brw55 Sat 29-Aug-20 13:30:08

@Grumpyoldpersonwithcats it’s not really financially an option for me to have a second at the moment. I work from home all the time now though so she’s very rarely alone - it was only this change in circumstance that led me to get her as I didn’t think it fair when I was at work all day, all week!

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Fluffycloudland77 Sat 29-Aug-20 14:47:18

Mine was always fine. He had friends when we lived rurally he did the rounds with.

When he was a kitten Dh used to go home at lunch to see him & the cat was decidedly underwhelmed by the gesture. Sometimes he’d jump onto the windowsill to look for me, just to rub it in.

Paranoidmarvin Sun 30-Aug-20 15:13:13

@brw55 that’s because he is nearly 12. And has got a lot slower these days. And wayyyyyy more grumpy

NC4Now Sun 30-Aug-20 15:16:40

When mine were babies I missed them when I left the house. I think it’s part of the bonding process. I still love them both with all my heart, but I can do normal things now 😂

EachandEveryone Sun 30-Aug-20 20:20:43

The insurance is the biggest difference between one and two. She will be fine as long as she has plenty of toys and scratch posts. Can we see her?

SeagullSong Sun 30-Aug-20 20:42:54

Well I got my two as a pair and still felt exactly the same when they were tiny. The cuteness is another feline trick to trap you into a life of servitude.

brw55 Sun 30-Aug-20 21:17:15

@EachandEveryone here is her current situation...

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brw55 Sun 30-Aug-20 21:18:42

@NC4Now ok this makes me feel better! I had a bath earlier and it took all my willpower to leave her in the lounge, I need this phase to pass haha

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Fluffycloudland77 Sun 30-Aug-20 21:33:59

Oh lord that is one cute kitten. I’m not surprised you can’t leave her.

cosmo30 Sun 30-Aug-20 21:41:27

Awww, is she a bsh? We have one and he's a lovely boy. Very chilled out but not a lap cat in the slightest and likes his own space

brw55 Sun 30-Aug-20 22:06:56

@cosmo30 yes she is! She was initially against all contact but is now the opposite and has to be lying on me in some form at all times! (She’s currently in bed next to me lying on my arm)

Saying that though she does seem remarkably chilled for a kitten which I guess could be the breed? There is the odd crazy half an hour of zooming around but she sleeps non stop and seems pretty content just lazing around.

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brw55 Sun 30-Aug-20 22:10:37

@Fluffycloudland77 she’s adorable, and the cuddliest little thing. This is her sleeping face and I sometimes can’t even believe she is real!

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cosmo30 Mon 31-Aug-20 07:36:21

@brw55 omg she's just 😍 I'm not suprised you don't want to leave her!!
Might be the breed? But also every cat is different! They do have the cutest little faces dont they

Oldestchild90s Mon 31-Aug-20 08:34:26

@brw55 What a beaut! I still feel like this now with my 4 cats, you get used to it over time but i am always excited to go back home to see my little babies 😻 miss them so much when i'm out!

Perfectly normal!

EachandEveryone Mon 31-Aug-20 10:31:06

Are BSH indoor cats?

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