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Cat run over and killed yesterday. Heartbroken 💔

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Ozzie9523 Mon 09-Dec-19 21:05:03

We found our 3 year old Siamese cross Milo’s body on our driveway yesterday. I’m absolutely heartbroken and have cried non-stop for the last 24 hours. How do you ever get over this? He was the most loving and playful boy, had him and his sister since they were 10 weeks old, as well as a black rescue cat. The three of them have grown up together and he adored his sister. My husband was quite quick in burying him, I now feel like I want to dig him up, put something of mine in with him as well as his favourite toy. Keep picturing him in a plastic bag in the ground. Our road isn’t a main road but it is a cut through and at certain times it gets busy. I didn’t let them out for 10 months and when they did finally go out they stayed in our largish back garden. They loved being outdoors and I didn’t feel I could deprive them of it their whole life. The last six months or so they’ve started venturing around the front which did worry me sometimes tho they didn’t seem to go near the road. But obviously they did. When we found him he wasn’t externally injured, but had blood coming from his nose and mouth. I don’t know when it happened, we’d spent the night away for our sons birthday, cat sitter had been in the morning and hadn’t seen him, tho she saw him sat Eve when she came. So I think it happened sat night or early Sunday morning. We went to look for him when we hadn’t seen him for a few hours on our return and my husband found his body on our driveway by the bins. I wish I knew what had happened and am now torturing myself. I’ve loved and lost cats before but to old age/kidney disease. Nothing as traumatic as this. I just keep bursting into tears.

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Ozzie9523 Mon 09-Dec-19 21:07:14

My beautiful boy 💙💔

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UrsulaPandress Mon 09-Dec-19 21:11:22

So sorry.

3 months today since I had my dog pts. I cry every time I think about him.

It’s better to have loved ...

Fluffycloudland77 Mon 09-Dec-19 21:26:55

He was beautiful. Mine was killed 3 weeks today and I’m still sobbing daily.

I have no idea how we’re supposed to deal with it either but I think it’s best to let it all out now.

Can you cat proof the garden?. I always put it off but bitterly regret that now.

Ilovethekitties Mon 09-Dec-19 21:27:47

I'm so sorry.

He was absolutely stunning.

Sherrybabyy Mon 09-Dec-19 21:28:21

Bless him. So sorry flowers

oohnicevase Mon 09-Dec-19 21:29:25

I grew up with Siamese and the boy cats were always lovely . He reminds me of one of them.. so sorry for your loss .

isitpossibleto Mon 09-Dec-19 21:30:46

I’m sorry. My beautiful cat (who picked me one evening as he was prowling the streets) was hit by a car. It was heart breaking.

notsleepingbeauty Mon 09-Dec-19 21:34:39

So sorry to hear this, just remember he had a wonderful loving home and life with you

Tinty Mon 09-Dec-19 21:39:16

So sorry you lost your beautiful boy.
This is what we built in our garden when we lost our lovely boy.

It took at least a month before I stopped crying every day. It takes time but it will pass eventually.

ringme Mon 09-Dec-19 21:41:39

I’m so sorry OP, what a shock that must have been.

BlueEyedBengal Mon 09-Dec-19 21:44:16

Sorry from the Bengal house. It's the worst isn't it it's happened half a dozen time to my cats in my life and I've crypt like I'd lost my best friend every time. It a tough world out there for pets I'd had enough and my Bengal is an indoor cat now, my cat before him was killed by a dog set on him by a teenager( witnessed by neighbours) that's when i said never again. thanks

TrainspottingWelsh Mon 09-Dec-19 21:45:30

So sorry flowers

cricketmum84 Mon 09-Dec-19 21:46:23

So sorry OP, he was beautiful.

If just takes time. That's all. There is nothing anyone can say or do to make it easier but over time it will get less painful.

SecretNutellaFix Mon 09-Dec-19 21:50:33

I'm so sorry.
Our family has lost 2 to traffic, and from what you describe as his injuries, sounds like he was hit by a car and managed to make it nearly home before his injuries got too severe.
It's the suddenness that I found the worst of trying to get my head around it.

Ringsender2 Mon 09-Dec-19 21:51:26

I'm so sorry for your loss OP.

I really miss our beautiful big black mog. He died almost a year ago. He was run over but we didn't know for more than a week. We finally got news via a local FB page. We didn't have his body, but a woman had taken his photo.

You will have a cat-shaped hole forever, but it will get easier. He also had an amazing life with you and his cat siblings. Much better that than a longer life with suffering.

Look after yourself and allow yourself to grieve for as long as you need. It might sound a bit potty, but they are so much part of the family that it would be weird to not grieve.

WestCovina Mon 09-Dec-19 21:52:17

I’m so sorry that this happened to your beautiful boy.

The same happened to my tonkinese boy and I was devastated. I felt the same as you, we buried him in the garden but I couldn’t stop thinking about him out there so we did end up digging him up and cremating him, he now sits in a sweet cat shaped urn by my bed. The crematorium did a paw print for me and I got it made into one of those silver bracelets (I also have it tattooed) but it did bring me some comfort.

Please feel free to DM me if you want to have a chat about it, our stories are really similar and I struggled to find anyone to talk with when it happened flowers

Ozzie9523 Mon 09-Dec-19 22:04:33

What I feel guilty about now is that for the last year he has been spraying everywhere inside the house, despite having litter trays, a microchip cat flap and being neutered. Took him to the vet, nothing wrong, he said it was behavioural. Even had him on anti depressants at one point. He had a lovely life so we figured he just hated the neighbourhood cats. He was quite ‘high maintenance’ like Siamese can be, but in a lovely way. But I was getting so down about the constant cleaning, a few people said I should consider rehoming him and I’m ashamed to admit the thought crossed my mind in my darker moments (he ruined so many clothes, husbands guitar amp, dining chairs etc). But I loved him too much so resigned myself to deep cleaning for the next 15 or so years. Feel so guilty now about feeling fed up with him 💔

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Fluffycloudland77 Tue 10-Dec-19 06:59:58

He didn’t know you’d thought of that though.

MiniGuinness Tue 10-Dec-19 07:07:29

What a beautiful boy. So sorry

BovaryX Tue 10-Dec-19 08:23:55

I am so sorry to hear this. He was absolutely beautiful. It’s really difficult to find a balance between letting them outside and the danger they face from traffic. You must be so upset, just awful.

PixieDustt Tue 10-Dec-19 08:30:18

I know how you feel OP. It's been about 15 years for our little kitten and sometimes still get upset.
His died traumatically too. He was 11 months old. Sleeping under a car and for whatever reason he didn't wake and the car reversed over him 😭.

Sorry for the loss of your beautiful cat

nettie434 Tue 10-Dec-19 09:30:22

So sorry Ozzie9523 that you have lost your beautiful cat. Don’t feel bad that you sometimes resented the cat hair, spraying etc. Bereavement does sometimes make us wish we could have done more or done things differently. He looks as if he had a great life. It is just so sad that he was not with you for longer.

CatInTheDaytime Tue 10-Dec-19 09:44:19

Oh ((((OP)))) I’m so sorry. We lost a beloved cat 3 years ago in a similar way - me and the DC all cried almost non-stop for 3 days, then it calmed down a bit and we gradually got back to normal, though we still think about her and cry sometimes.

It comforts me to think we gave her a wonderful life with loads of affection, food, cosy beds and love. Cats have to take their chances but remember all the happiness you gave him. What a beautiful boy too. flowers brew

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