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Not sure what to do with this lovely little cat...help!(223 Posts)
I won’t dripfeed so apologies for the long backstory.
I had a cat for 22 years. I am a cat person. DS was born when DCat was 20, so for 2 years he was around cat, touched cat and grew up with a very furry environment.
When DCat died we said no more pets for a while. A year later, at 3, DS went into the home of a dog and with no warning at all had an acute and severe asthma attack. A&E blue light job. It isn’t the only dog he is allergic to because he has less severe but obvious symptoms if we even go in a car where a different dog has been. We are very very vigilant to avoid dogs (due to the acute and severe nature of the attack) and DS is now 8. We’ve always wondered if he is the same with cats but a) hoped not due to earlier exposure and b) daren’t risk finding out. Note we lived in the house that the cat had lived in for another 2 years but moved when DS was 4.
Minding our own business, going about life, and for reasons unknown to us this little cat arrives. She is small, fed (as far as I can see), clean, very used to humans and for some reason is also very very very determined to get into our house. We have NEVER let her in or fed her, not even once. DD (10) will stoke her if she’s playing in the garden but the cat is very affectionate and absolutely adores DD. When we come home from school Cat comes running miaowing. She spends hours every day miaowing on the kitchen windowsill or at the kitchen door. She stares at us through the door all evening and scratches at the living room door all evening (see photo!!). If DD or I go out to her she will literally jump from the wall or garden table to DDs shoulder. As I speak she is outside miaowing at the door.
I’ve been round circa 25 houses in the direction she most commonly comes from and everyone sees her but no one knows who owns her. So....
What do I do to locate her owner? I don’t want to take her to a vet, I don’t have a pet carrier for a start.
Should I put a note on a collar and put it on her? Would that work?
In light of the above, I don’t want to claim her as I am 80% sure she is owned but if she was your cat wouldn’t you want to know she was trying so badly to invade ours! I want them to know i haven’t fed her or tried to steal her!
DS has allergy testing at the end of Oct, but IF (if if if if) it turns out she’s a random, what are the chances of him being allergic to dogs but not
Thoughts on the above, please?
Put a note on its collar with your number first.
I’d ring if my cat came home with a note on it.
It doesn’t have a collar. If it did I would conclude it had a human!
I was going to buy a collar and attach the note. Or is that overstepping?
I really don’t want to adopt her anyway it’s too big a risk for DS, but I do want to know she isn’t a stray because if she is i’ll get her rehomed safely before the cold weather really sets in.
She is clean and neat and not skinny and definitely used to people!
You could attach a paper collar with a note. A proper collar a strangulation risk and if she tries to get it off and gets her leg stuck in it she’s in a right pickle.
Paper collar or post on FB lost pets groups?
Does it have a red/sore patch on its side?
Paper collar is a genius idea. I suppose I’m just worried about putting my phone number out there for someone (and it could be anyone let’s face it!) to call! But no idea how else to attempt this.
I live in a big town and the only FB group I can find is for the whole town and I can’t see any listings for a cat like this one. Also, if she’s ‘owned’ then of course no one would be looking?
No sore patch. Do you mean spade mark? I am fairly sure she is a she. My DCat was a boy (neutered of course) so this cat from what I can see is either a neutered male, or female, but in the weeks since she’s shown up no sign of being neutered with a side shave. I could have a better look tomorrow. I am guessing she is about 6-9 months old. She was smaller when I first started seeing her (maybe 3 months ago) but it’s the last 6 weeks she’s been incessantly around. Better photo attached (that’s through a glass door she’s not paddling thin air!!)
Oh she is a beauty and looks well looked after. A paper collar with your number on is a good idea, that's what cat rescues advise. If my cats came home with one I would definitely get in touch.
There is Hope OP. My DS gets v wheezy round cats but had no reaction at all to dogs, and allergy tests confirm.
Cat allergy is about twice as common as dog allergy, and being allergic to both is not uncommon...but I've certainly seen children who were allergic to dog but not cat. So there is some hope.
Right....so....paper collar it is and if no response then at least I wouldn’t feel guilty that she seems so attached to our house. But I’m still not letting her in just yet. If she came back with no owner then we’d have to think about what to do as we don’t have DSs allergy tests due till the last week in Oct.
From that if he is allergic, then I’ll have to have a rethink about trying to get her homed as she can’t be out all winter and we couldn’t help.
If he isn’t allergic then frankly I think she’d be in like a shot if I let her.
BUT, as you can see from what I say she looks ‘looked after’ to me and maybe just a chancer....but chancing what? The only thing she gets is the odd stroke and fuss in the garden, so why not go home for that? But you give her a stroke and she purrs and purrs. I sat on the outside step deadheading a pot and she was on my lap and curled up in seconds. She just seems overly grateful for company. Oh I don’t know!! But I’ll try the paper collar on Friday on a day when I’m home all day. How do I make one just a single strip of paper and a bit of sellotape? That simple?
Sounds as if you would like to have this cat as the family pet if your son turns out not to be allergic . Ring your local vet and ask if you can borrow a pet carrier - get a neighbour or friend to take the cat to see if it’s chipped . Owner may well be looking for it . If not it needs to go to a cat rescue .
She's gorgeous!!! I would adopt her !!
You can download a paper cat collar from the RSPCA website. Should be easy to find if you Google it.
Good luck. She's gorgeous.
Yes got it - thank you. Will print in the office tomorrow and attach it thurs/fri.
And yes if there was no owner and no allergy I’d have her instantly - she’s such a nice natured little dot and clearly likes our house 🙄 but a lot of bridges to cross before that is anywhere near a possibility and with the allergy, and her clean appearance, I doubt it’s likely. But I’d like the reassurance of knowing she has a home and if not I will certainly sort that out!
If the owners work ft or have a new dog she might be looking for company.
How long have you lived in your house OP? Might the cat have lived there previously?
Oh she's lovely! Before you said the photo was taken through glass I thought she might be a hind legs contemporary dancer, like ArseyCat.
In your situation, I'd do the paper collar, then wait for DS results and then if nothing back from an owner I'd check at the vets for a chip then open the door and keep her.
We’ve lived here for 4 years and she is less than a year old. I’ve got a nagging feeling I saw her as a young cat (like toddler age!) around Easter time sitting on our shed roof, but I can’t be sure. But as I say I have knocked loads of doors on the road behind us and the road behind that and everyone is very helpful and quite a few know her (she followed me round when I was doing this!!) two houses both said ‘I assume she has no house she doesn’t belong to anyone round here’ but seriously - look at her she’s immaculate - and I don’t think she’s scavaging what she wants is warmth and fuss and play.
I am trying to see a regularity in her turning up to work out if she is being let in or out at regular times. She is always around post-school (4ish) and then all eve, and in the morning before we go out, but then those times are when my DD is most likely around to give her a rub or when she’ll see a response. I’ve noticed if a light goes on in our kitchen she’s there in minutes, so I think she is nearby an awful lot.
@Alabasterangel6 if you're worried about your number being out there, could you open a fresh email account with a neutral name, no details in address just for this purpose?
When I was a child we had a cat do exactly the same to us, totally determined to get in & even sat in the rain for 4 days because my mum refused to let him in hoping he'd go home....he didn't go home and eventually lived with us for another 14 years.
Sometime you just have to accept you have been chosen
grandma i’d love to accept she’s ‘chosen’ us as she’s gorgeous, but if I were her owner I’d be mighty pissed off that someone had pinched my cat and probably be the subject of a ‘this CF has stolen my cat’ thread
Also, as I’ve said, at this time I can’t risk any animal indoors due to a chronic asthma issue which is triggered by dogs and therefore has the potential to be triggered by cats too. We need to get the allergy testing done at the end of the month to know this.
My first cat arrived under similar circumstances. He was an huge grey 'complete' tom cat in very good condition, very friendly and just wanted to spend time with us. We didn't feed him - but he appeared every day and spent all day with us. He then vanished for a few days and when he turned up again was injured. We took him to the vet who treated his injuries and told us to keep him in for a week. When we told the vet that he wasn't our cat, the vet responded 'He is now, you've got the vet's bill'.
OP - I'm sure you don't need to be told that she's gorgeous .
My son is terribly allergic to dogs but not at all to cats (we have 2 🙂). He was tested at the allergy clinic as has other allergies.
Apparently cat & dog allergies are completely different as, with dogs, it's the dander causing the allergy, and cats, it's most often the saliva.
Hope it's a happy ending
Oh jayne you give me hope!!! 🤞
Really hope this has a happy ending for all concerned!!
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