I have a lovely 1 year old cat that we got 4 months ago. I have wanted a cat for years as I had one through my childhood. I realise now that I didn’t understand what was involved and that my parents must have done the hard bits.
So now I am the main carer and responsible for him but am failing badly and am feeling ashamed of myself. I have eye drops to put in 3 times a day as he has a big scratch on his eyeball. The cat is now so wary of me and won’t come near me. I have just been following him around with a blanket trying to catch him. Each time he escaped and I’m causing him so much distress. It’s so upsetting for us both .
I am not assertive enough . I’m afraid if I push him too much he’ll turn wild and hiss. I know I need to do this for his eyes but I have let my self get too emotional and nervous. ( anxious to the point of diarrhoea. It was the same getting him into the carrier to actually go to the vets. It took all day .
The vet showed me how to do eye drops and it seemed so simple but he was so submissive there so didn’t attempt to escape.
I feel I am a failure as a cat owner . A middle aged mean who can’t be forceful enough to take control of a cat for its own good.
Was anyone else like this to begin with but became more confident with time?
I love this cat and am so ashamed with myself.
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comfortandjoy · 26/04/2018 23:55
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