Our absolutely beloved and adored little cat was run over and killed outside our house a few days ago. We didn’t see or hear anything and some lovely neighbours came out and whisked him off to the vet to be scanned for a chip which fortunately he had. The vet contacted us straight away to let us know. He died quickly we believe according to the neighbours. They didn’t know he was ours hence taking him to be scanned for a chip.
We are bereft. He was only about 18 months old. He was kept in at night and slept on our bed between us. He was my first cat and I can’t believe how much I fell for him. I feel like nothing in the world will be right again. My husband is stoical but he adored him too and is concerned about me and our children who love him so much. The children are devastated.
I can’t believe he’s gone, the wind rattles the cat flap and I think he’s coming in. I keep thinking I hear him but it’ll be a cat on tv. I know it’ll pass. I know that. My son said the hurt he feels is worth it to have had our cat for the time we did. Deep for a pre-teen. He was his first pet.
I’m sorry, I just wanted to get it all down. I can’t speak in real life without howling and I don’t want to freak my kids out.
My first instinct was to think that I’ll never put us through this again, or risk another cats life again. The pain is too much. I thought my husband would have been the same as it was my idea to get our first one. He went along with it as he knew it would make us happy. Then he fell for him too straight away. But he said last night that if I wanted another in the future he would be happy with that. Then I started to feel slightly better, the thought that I didn’t have to go through the rest of my life catless.
But I can’t get the voice out of my head that it’s so selfish to want another, to risk another poor cat on the road. Our road isn’t especially busy, it’s not a through road, more like a a few cul - de - sacs run together. Sometimes there are cars coming in too fast. But it’s not especially busy. I have friends with cats that they’ve had for years on some really busy rat run roads. We feel so cheated. Has anyone here gone through the same and got another cat later? And did it work out for you? Sorry for the epic essay. But it has helped to get it down. If anyone responds please be kind, if you think it’s a terrible idea that’s ok and I’m happy to hear opinions. But I’m extremely fragile at the moment. I’m not considering another cat for a long time. I’ve not said anything to my kids about it. It’s just thoughts in my head. Thank you.
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tearsofrobertsmith · 16/03/2018 15:42
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