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summersgoneaway · 16/11/2017 22:36

Going to get a black kitten from my friend
They are currently 3 weeks old
Saw them for the first time today so cute and tiny.
Having trouble seeing if they are boys or girls!!
When she first looked thought two girls her friend came around yesterday and thought two boys then they looked again after and weren't sure
Seems to be really hard to tell
I had a look and thought girls
The two tabbys she also have you can tell straight away what gender is very obvious
Is it easier to tell girls or boys?
We can really only have a girl

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dementedpixie · 17/11/2017 16:28

Why only a girl?

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thecatneuterer · 17/11/2017 16:30

Yes exactly. Both are going to be neutered anyway I presume (which is what your friend should have done!!) and then there really is no difference between the sexes.

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summersgoneaway · 17/11/2017 16:40

Dh too worried about a male one spraying

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dementedpixie · 17/11/2017 16:42

Neuter early and it's less of a problem. My 2 boys are 1 now and have never sprayed (neutered at 4 months). Females can also spray apparently

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thecatneuterer · 17/11/2017 16:42

As long as they're neutered at 4 months that shouldn't happen.

To answer your question - girls have two holes close together. Boys have either only one really obvious hole, or two holes much further apart than the girls.

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Fluffycloudland77 · 17/11/2017 17:42

Girls can spray too.

Spraying isn't ideal but it's not the end of the world.

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Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 17/11/2017 17:51

I've had 6 tom cats (of which the first remained entire for several years). None sprayed.
Boy cats are in my experience friendlier than girls.

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PinkSparklyPussyCat · 17/11/2017 18:37

Mine was a stray and he was neutered when he was 2 or 3 and he’s never sprayed.

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Fiona1984 · 17/11/2017 19:05

My tom was neutered at a year old and never sprayed. His pee did smell stronger before he was castrated though, once he'd reached maturity.
I also have a male kitten (currently curled up on my lap), and both are incredibly loving.

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RubbishMantra · 18/11/2017 00:07

I have 2 boys, their toilet habits are immaculate.

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ScreamingValenta · 18/11/2017 00:16

In my experience, neutered male cats don't spray and are just as loving as females, so I don't think you need to worry if you get the sex wrong. I thought my male kitten was female for about a week, and then suddenly a pair of testicles emerged prompting a hasty renaming of him!

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MiniMum97 · 18/11/2017 01:17

Boys are definitely friendlier and unlikely to spray if you neuter early.

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midsomermurderess · 18/11/2017 09:24

I’m pretty certain cats don’t have genders.

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YetAnotherSpartacus · 18/11/2017 09:45

I always wondered about cats and gender, (as opposed to sex). In my experience female cats have almost always been smarter and boy cats thick as two short planks.

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Want2beme · 18/11/2017 10:50

My spayed female cat sprays every now and then. I found that male neutered cats don't spray inside, but maybe that's just my experience.

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summersgoneaway · 18/11/2017 15:50

The black kittens are really hard to tell the gender
I had a look owner has had a look just can't tell nothing obvious
The tabbys are quite a bit bigger than the black kittens and genders are very obvious !!.
With the black kittens can't tell
Owner first thought there was a male and a female kitten, then she looked a week later and thought they were both girls
Then this week a friend had a look and thought both boys

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summersgoneaway · 18/11/2017 15:52

In our old house we had awful trouble with our ginger cat spraying he is now aged 18 years old .
Think he starting spraying when we had our children he used to spray everywhere and dh hated it .

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summersgoneaway · 18/11/2017 15:52

My mums male cat also used to spray a lot

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PinkSparklyPussyCat · 18/11/2017 17:32

I have 2 boys, their toilet habits are immaculate.

Same as Harry, unless you count digging a hole, standing in it and going on the edge of the hole! DH will be clearing cat shit and filling holes again soon! I couldn't ask for a cleaner, better behaved cat indoors though.

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Fluffycloudland77 · 18/11/2017 18:55

If you can wait till 12wks things will have dropped.

Mine sprays indoors but he gets urine infections easily and knows if you want mommy to let you out back up to something & she'll carry you to the back door.

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ScreamingValenta · 18/11/2017 19:06

If you neuter early enough, the cat shouldn't form the habit of spraying. They can still spray in situations of stress (eg. new cat in the house) but that applies to both sexes.

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Weedsnseeds1 · 18/11/2017 20:40

Mine was 2 when adopted from rescue so had only just been neutered. He doesn't spray.

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SuburbanRhonda · 18/11/2017 20:42

I can’t believe I’m typing “It’s sex, not gender!” on a kitten thread 🙄

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summersgoneaway · 18/11/2017 23:35

Going to get kitten in Jan at 10 weeks

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ScreamingValenta · 19/11/2017 00:02

Please come back and post some pictures, OP.

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