he has an OW :(

[Mightybanhammer]

Been together years and he just came in stinking of woodsmoke ( have yet to fire up our woodburner)
And unfamiliar hand cream.
He has spent ages on litter tray .
He is now nonchantly grooming his side.
What hurts most is we slept together last night.
I love the very bones of him, but can I live with him?

[Bubblesblue]

I'm so sorry
Two options:

1. LTB
   
2. invest in luxury food and feed him up until he's too big to leave
   Good luck

[WhyNot123]

You just have to accept that he's not a one woman cat, don't try and change him.

[Want2beme]

I think he needs to be entered into the Rogues Gallery of Shame. He's not the first and he won't be the first, I'm sad to say.

You can have my very first LTB love the bliter .

Pic please!!

[Fluffycloudland77]

It doesn't mean anything, it's only her woodburner he's after.

[Kenworthington]

Mine comes home reeking of cheap perfume. The dirty guy was out all last night, swanned back in around 11 this morning for his fancy food and then buggered off again.

[MyCatMyRules]

Dreadfully sorry to hear this OP.
I sleep with mine most nights and I love him pander to his every need dearly.
His aloofness during the day breaks my heart though. Should I LTB or accept that he loves me, but is basically one big furry cocklodger?

[Sweetnessishere]

Or you could have mine who seems to have become attached to me and will not leave my side. I just went to the loo whilst she cried at the door. I thought this sort of thing all ended when my DC grew up.

Having said that I would and do panic if I have been in the house for more than 30 minutes and not seen her, I'd never cope if she got another woman

[DanHumphreyIsA]

Double up on the Dreamies.
Douse yourself in catnip.
Replace your air freshener with tuna.

I hope it works out

[Toddlerteaplease]

Place him under house arrest OP, it’s the only way

[Weedsnseeds1]

Get your log burner lit asap, even if it isn't cold
Stock up on smoked salmon, roast chicken, mature cheddar, whatever his vice of choice. After all those years you must know his weaknesses better than his new bit of fluff.
If he wants the whole bed, give it to him. Your place is on the floor until this crisis is over.
Stalk your neighbours on social media for photos of them together...

[StillMedusa]

Ha! Mine has not one, not two, but THREE other women! To the point that he sleeps in our homes in rotation!
One of his homes FBs me with pictures of the ungrateful, unfaithful furry git sleeping on their sofa!
He once came home and puked a chicken dinner (complete with peas!) and that's when home no 2 and 3 denied all knowledge and we realised we were all being duped...

His sister however is faithful!

[Talith]

I could tell mine had been cheating when I gave him a good sniff and he smelled of chipfat.

[Giraffesarequitetall]

Does your philanderer wear a collar? If not, maybe get a ‘do not feed’ one and get him to wear it for a week or so? Marks him out as your property, maybe the OW does not realise he is attached? (Being charitable here).

My two also have other women. I only know one who claims she doesn’t let girlcat in or feed her but I am not convinced. When we put a ‘do not feed’ collar on boycat he did seem to stay at home more the following week. Problem with him is he manages to get rid of any collar within a week so it gets expensive to keep replacing.

I would not LTB just mark him as already attached. Good luck OP