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I've had to send Jeffrey back to the rescue centre

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Kenworthington Thu 22-Jun-17 16:41:04

I'm so so sad. We gave it a week. Colin has become very distressed over that time and has not taken to having a tiny interloper. He keeps going off, roaming, going into the road which he's never done. He won't even come home for food. I miss Colin. We all miss Colin. I couldn't keep Jeffrey safe from him without locking him in a room. I know I've done the right thing by both cats. But I'm so sad. Jeffrey will be snapped up again, as who doesn't want a cute wee kitten? I have got rid of jeffs stuff and thoroughly cleaned the house and am desperate for Colin to return and find his house is his domain again. Had a proper ugly cry when I took Jeff back to the shelter and the lady there said I'd definitely done the right thing. But am so gutted. And ds1 was dieoia with me this morning. I'm dreading him coming home and discovering jeffs gone. I just hope Colin comes home and is ok again. Please don't slate me, I really really tried 😢

TheCatOfAthenry Thu 22-Jun-17 16:44:53

Hugs for you @Kenworthington. You did your best. X

Floralnomad Thu 22-Jun-17 16:45:21

You've absolutely done the right thing , the existing pet should always come first , we would all love a second dog but I know our existing dog would loathe it . Tell ds that Colin would have left home if you'd kept Jeffrey . Great names btw.

Kenworthington Thu 22-Jun-17 16:48:48

Thank you. I'm home of worried he may have already left and not let me know confused I've not seen him since 11am (he'd been out all night which he never used to do), I had to go and find him (in a pile of mud in the garden 😢), pick him up and carry him inside for his food then he went out again straight away. I miss him 😢😢

Kenworthington Thu 22-Jun-17 16:50:22

Jeffrey's such a sweet little thing- but feisty- wouldn't back away from Colin and that was part of the problem. Look at his cute wee face😢

TheCatOfAthenry Thu 22-Jun-17 16:54:13

I know the feeling - Biscuit is bold as brass and Cookie is so soft.

What helped us was Cookie's fear of the outdoors, and desire to mother him.

You got unlucky, and maybe in the future he'd tolerate an older, quieter companion.

It's not easy and you did the right thing. The lovely Colin will be delighted to have you all to himself!

isseywithcats Thu 22-Jun-17 17:03:04

awww so sorry it didnt work out but you have absolutely done the right thing while jeffery is still cute and very rehomable, and now at least you know that colin really does prefer to be an only cat , im lucky my resident cats take the fosters in thier stride

Floralnomad Thu 22-Jun-17 17:06:30

Hope Colin comes home soon .

Kenworthington Thu 22-Jun-17 17:26:17

Thanks. Still no sign of him. I've been calling and calling him and shaking dreamies. Ds1 has just come home and is devastated. I haven't seen him cry in about 10 years- he's 18 😢😢😢

mumsiedarlingrevolta Thu 22-Jun-17 17:29:50

Oh I hope he comes back!!
Fingers crossed. xx

Floralnomad Thu 22-Jun-17 17:33:48

Send him out to look for Colin , it will take his mind off it .

Gatekeeper Thu 22-Jun-17 17:34:08

We had this with Sherlock; he loathes any other cat. When a stray cat turned up and we eventually took him in Sherlock went wandering and missing for long periods which is unlike him. Eventually we rehomed the stray (Nobby) and after a couple of days Sherlock came back properly. Lots of fuss and lots of prawns

bigtapdancingpimp Thu 22-Jun-17 17:55:54

Colin will come back, just give him some time.

Poor Jeffrey sad but don't worry, someone will give him a home - with that cute little Batman face who could resist? (I've had two Batcats)

Don't beat yourself up - I have my very own Colin (Alfi) whose life mission is to destroy any cat/kitten that comes anywhere near me. Sigh

Kenworthington Thu 22-Jun-17 19:17:49

He came back, had some food, lolled around in the table for a bit and a fuss, wa purring away, then I carried the great lump into the lounge and he sat on my lap purring then he suddenly leapt up and was out the door again. But at least now he's seen that Jeffrey is no longer in the house. Phew!

EachandEveryone Thu 22-Jun-17 19:25:36

How long did you keep them separated for? At least he will be rehomed quickly. Funny things aren't they. Mine are currently in a double chalet at the cattery I haven't heard any news yet so I'm keeping my fingers crossed. How old is big one?

Kenworthington Thu 22-Jun-17 19:33:20

I kept them separated totally for two days in advice of the shelter. Then did gradual introduction. We've only had Jeffrey a week! Colin is 13 months (and enormous)

EachandEveryone Thu 22-Jun-17 19:36:12

Aw. Shame I think you got him just after me it seems like yesterday

Want2beme Fri 23-Jun-17 21:15:00

Ahh, so sorry this has happened. What a shame. I have to keep my last arrival, over 2 years now, separate from one of my other cats and it's a real shame, not ideal at all. Hope Colin comes home very soon and you all feel better.

ElizaDontlittle Sun 25-Jun-17 00:27:48

My local rescue suggested completely separate with scent swapping for at least 2 weeks then very gradual introductions - my kitten has been here nearly 3 weeks and they have briefly met face to face 4 or 5 times. But they suggested 4-6 weeks as a minimum for introductions... I have mostly followed that advice and my hugely possesive big girl is coping, although she's outside more than she was, she's still eating and snuggling in bed in the mornings.

It's really sad it hasn't worked out but don't give up hope that it could do, managed a different way. I guess like us some cats take longer to adapt to change, and some never get there. I'd definitely have failed if I'd let them meet within days... like want2be it may still do, and I'll always have to keep them separate when I'm out at least.

EachandEveryone Tue 27-Jun-17 09:13:38

Will they let you know when he gets rehomed? How's your big one now?

Kenworthington Tue 27-Jun-17 10:43:54

He's not been rehomed yet but they had an open day the other day and apparently there were lots of people fussing over him so I doubt he'll hang around for long. I was a bit cross that I'd taken him to the vet early last week with gunky eyes and got some drops for his conjunctivitis. I'd given them this at the shelter when I took him back and my friend said his eyes are now really bad so I don't think they've been treating them 😢
Colin is LOVING being a lone cat again. He's been all over us like a rash, he's content and chilled out. I'm so happy he's back

EachandEveryone Tue 27-Jun-17 13:02:00

Oh i would be really upset as well. Would you ring them?

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