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Needy clingy rescue cat....any tips?

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants Mon 23-Jan-17 22:22:03

I love SpongeCat dearly. When we got her from the Rescue, I don't know who rescued who really....and she loves me too! So much, that she wants to sit on me. All.The. Time. Which often involves holding my laptop at a weird angle, and aggravating my bad back. But when we are away, although we have a pet feeder/stroker/checker she gets quite stressed, even with the Feliway plugged in. When DD comes from uni with all her mess, that stresses her, and she starts weeing in odd places. It is now stressful for me to go away, even knowing she is being well looked after, because I know she will be stressed to. I realise this is largely down to her being a rescue, and she is probably now about 9. Have had her 5 years. Is there anything I could do/stop doing, which would help? TIA.

GardenGeek Mon 23-Jan-17 23:40:01

Weird suggestion but have you tried somehow talking to her to see if it helps.

Ie. call her (obviously with DD to put phone on speaker) and see if your voice attracts her to the phone and if she seems happy about it.

If so then I think there are systems you can buy where you can video call your pet and talk to them/ see them etc. You can even play with them through remote toys.

This is an american one...

I know there are some UK ones too, but not sure what they are called.

CatBallou2 Tue 24-Jan-17 10:28:48

I'm always stressed when I leave my cats. I'm going to see my aunt on Wednesday, and should really stay overnight because she lives a 2 hour drive from me, however, I just won't rest knowing that my 3 will be without me, and it is close enough for me to get back to them in a day.

If I do go away for a few days, I have someone who can stay with them or someone else who can pop in to them a few times a day, but I still worry about them and hate leaving them. They are very messy cats as well, and I hate burdening anyone with having to clean up after them.

The reality is though, that we sometimes have to/want to go away and just have to hope that our furry friends will survive without us.

ppeatfruit Tue 24-Jan-17 10:36:00

There is a brilliant book called The Trainable Cat by John Bradshaw & Sarah Ellis it's fantastic and could really help you. You could also try changing her food if she's on cereal type biscuits and pouches\tins. Ours all calm down incredibly when we stop with the cereals.

We give them a mix of raw and lightly cooked turkey.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants Tue 24-Jan-17 11:25:58

Thanks all! I am going on honeymoon later in the year, so I really do need to leave her for a few days...might be an idea to have my Mother to stay and let her root through all my paperwork and throw things away in my kitchen and help her slattern-but-middle-aged daughter...I had never considered the food. Is it some cat type wheat allergy or similar? Will look at those links, and remember I do know she is better with my Mother around through gritted teeth grin

Weedsnseeds1 Tue 24-Jan-17 11:38:44

I talk to mine on the phone, he purrs!

reallyanotherone Tue 24-Jan-17 11:47:53

I have similar.

I always put them in a cattery when we go away as it's actually less stressful than being at home on their own. In a cattery there's someone around to chat to the majority of the time. I use the same one and they know the people there and the environment.

Otherwise i just find ways to sit so they can sit on me. Laptop with a footstool so they can sit on my lower legs, for example.

cozietoesie Tue 24-Jan-17 12:11:30

I gave up holidays. (Without a cat that is.) wink

Toddlerteaplease Tue 24-Jan-17 13:33:30

I've got a Motorola Hubble camera and you can get all to them through that. Hilarious to watch them try and work out where the voice is coming from.

Toddlerteaplease Tue 24-Jan-17 13:33:39


SpongeBobJudgeyPants Tue 24-Jan-17 16:53:54

Ooh good ideas. Cozie, do you go toholiday cottages/hotels with your cat? smile

cozietoesie Tue 24-Jan-17 17:04:50

I did with Twoago. Oneago and Seniorboy have just gone to other people's houses with me if needed.

They've all been desperately closely bonded though - won't eat properly (if at all) if I'm not around. That's Siamese for you. (Some of them.wink)

cozietoesie Tue 24-Jan-17 17:08:46

Sorry - The Lodger has also been moved around in recent times. (He's not a Siamese.) He doesn't much care where he is, though, although he prefers older houses. (*Mice*! grin)

selfishcrab Tue 24-Jan-17 17:13:18

16 years on and I still have that with my 2. They don't leave me alone but will settle for DS as second best. They were 2 years old and had been badly neglected when we got them.
Guess who doesn't come on holiday with us now... Although at 20 DS is ok with this. We used to have a friend who they love look after them.
They fight still to both get on my lap!

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