Hey I've lurked so long now I've probably forgot all the short words for stuff so appologies. Probably a bit of a ramble coming but just need to talk I guess feel devestated.
Not sure if anyone will remember me or the missy but she was found, or she found us as the case appeared in may 2012. She appeared in the garden heavily pregnant, I was 39 weeks pregnant and no cats rescues would take her. Finances were tight at the time and the cat rescues couldn't offer any help but with the help of some amazing mn's we all managed to get her sorted through the end of the pregnancy, ultrasound and the birth of 5 babies! We loved her and she loved us. Her babies grew then found new homes but she's been with us ever since. Her and my son are best buddies she sleeps with him, plays with him. I've had a daughter now too and she's amazing with her too. She used to lay next to her while she was feeding and stroke her head.
Something happened to her before christmas and she really changed was scared and skittish around us it lasted a few days so we kept her in until she was more like herself. We then let her out and she didn't come back for 3 weeks! I presumed she had been cat napped because she's lovely and doesn't have a collar anyone would love her! She came back one night and was starving and skinny. We was going to keep her in but she got out the next night and went missing for another week. We noticed she had turned into a really messy eater on the one night she was back and then again last night even skinner.
I sat and watched her and she couldn't open her mouth to eat was just licking things all over the place. We've taken her to he vets today and shes had several broken ribs that have started healing which ties into the timing of her behaviour changing. She jaw is 'fused' shut it won't open. She's been starving for over a month and we've not known 
, she's got something wrong with her eyes, cataract in one and something strange happening with the other possibly brain related? The vet said she isn't sure and is going to call in the next two days as she's never experienced anything like it.
I know I've only seen her three times in the last month but I feel awful how didn't I pick up on it when she came in that one night? How did I let her slip out without noticing. Why didn't I take her to the vets when she started acting strange.
Im devestated and I have no idea what to tell my son when his he from school I'm sure she's going to have to be pts. I'm fighting back tears in the vets I'm a grown woman with children and I'm crying over the stray cat I didnt even want to keep to start with. Kind of felt I should come and put it on here as I doubt people want to hear about it irl and I also kind of feel like we owe our time with her to all those mn's at the start so if any of those are still around they would know too :( :(
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Toddle · 19/01/2017 14:34
I'm SO sorry
You were lovely to her and gave her such a happy home and love. Agree with PPs that cats really go to every effort to hid when they are unwell or injured.
I hope so much that she can recover and have good quality of life. Be guided by the vet and if you do have to say goodbye try to keep in mind that she knows how loved and cared for she was.
Big hugs 
I'm so sorry
It's very hard to tell with cats, it's part of their nature to try and hide illness and injury. Please don't beat yourself up about it, you've done everything you can!
The vets sent her back home with us until she can figure something out and be sure on it she wants to try and get further advice herself at the moment before doing or trying anything.
We have some royal canine tin build up stuff from the vet that we're mixing with cat milk and she's lapping that up well enough.
Off the top of her head when she just thought it was broken ribs and jaw not opening she thought steroids may be worth a shot to see if they fixed the jaw and if not then tube feeding her. I guess that may all change with the eye/brain stuff too.
Tube would require a general anaesthetic though and she may not want to keep it in place and if not may have to wear a cone on her head all the time?
She's really chilled so I think she would possibly be fine with the tube but I doubt she could go out chasing down small animals to bring home in the wee hours with it 😂 As much as I'd love her to sit around with us all day like she has today is that really a good thing for her? She's never been a 247 house cat. But even so if she didn't keep it in I've then not only got to have her house bound all the time but with a cone on. And the 1/2 cataracts which I guess means she's going blind
She's spent the day cuddling up to the baby on the bed then sitting on my son's back when he got home from
School. I kind of feel torn between I want to keep her forever and anything reasonably to make that happen but then feeling bad for her for wanting that. A life confined to the house with a cone unable to see isn't her life at all. However if I go for pts option i feel like I'm practically ending her myself and feel awful for my boy mainly because he knows she's alive now and he wouldn't understand the issues of her quality of life.
I've never been in the situation with any pet or would it come to where if nothing seems like it would work they wouldn't give me a option they just tell you that's what needs to be done?
Oh I remember you
No advice, but please know that she is one very lucky little kitty to have found you. Please never doubt that.
The vet will be able to guide you. They aren't going to put a healthy animal to sleep, you should be able to trust them.
Sending you a huge hug, it's absolutely awful when a furry member of the family is unwell
This has just popped back up on threads I'm on. I hadn't previously seen the other replies sorry.
She is still with us 
completely blind in one eye but she's eating fine now. I can't quite remember how she started eating but we were and still are very pleased
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