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Will this kitten be ok?

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StopLaughingDrRoss Sat 16-Jul-16 07:21:02

Someone I know got a kitten last week from her local rescue, 12 weeks and cute as a button.. yay, except...

She's now gone on holiday for 9 days!! There is an automatic feeder which replays a voice message when it opens and she's asked her mum to pop in once a day but I am so worried for this little one.

Surely he shouldn't be on his own all day except for an hour or so when her mum pops in? I worry for his socialisation and last night, DS woke me up in the early hours and I couldn't get back to sleep thinking of this little baby who has been taken from the only home he's known and is now left in a big, empty house?

Am I overeacting (I so hope I am) or would this make you concerned too. I wouldn't do this with my cat who is along 8 years old!

What would you do? I want to scoop him up and bring him here but my cat just wouldn't cope, I work outside the home as well and I don't have a spare room I could lock him in - and couldn't keep my boy inside.

It is so bothering me sad

Costacoffeeplease Sat 16-Jul-16 07:53:45

I'd go and get it and take it back to the rescue to be honest

cozietoesie Sat 16-Jul-16 09:22:07

It would bother me desperately as well.

I guess she didn't tell the rescue that she was going on holiday? Why did she acquire him?

cozietoesie Sat 16-Jul-16 09:24:29

Do you know the Mum? Is there any chance that she could take the kit to her house and look after it?

chocdonutyy Sat 16-Jul-16 09:25:25

I'd let the rescue know, presumably they wouldn't have let her have the kitten if she was going away, I worry about my 3 when I go away for the night let alone 9! Being a kitten they can get up to all sorts of mischief as well as losing out massively on socialisation and company.

Icequeen01 Sat 16-Jul-16 09:25:58

That's just awful, poor little thing. Why on earth would you get a little kitten just before you go on holiday. Apart from the loneliness aspect I would be worried about its safety. They get into all sorts of places and can then get stuck. I agree with previous poster and if possible I would take it back to the rescue or at least let the rescue know so perhaps they can contact friend's mum and go and pick it up. She doesn't sound like she's going to be a responsible cat owner to be honest.

SuburbanRhonda Sat 16-Jul-16 09:26:44

Can your friend's mum not have the kitten until your friend gets back from her holiday?

I would be less worried about a very young kitten being left for 9 days - although that's bad enough - and more worried about what kind of life it's going to have when your friend is clearly so irresponsible.

ghostspirit Sat 16-Jul-16 09:33:17

I'm on the fence. She should not have got the kittens knowing she is going away. Would the rescue place do anything. As the kitten is being fed and watered.

Vinorosso74 Sat 16-Jul-16 10:22:55

An older cat who is settled in this is fine if someone is going in daily to feed/water/stroke cat etc.
A kitten I don't think this is ideal as per reasons previous posters have stated. Can her mum not stay at her house so kitten is in it's own home but with company and someone keeping an eye on it.
Highly irresponsible to get a pet then go away on holiday.

cozietoesie Sat 16-Jul-16 10:31:30

It doesn't bode well, does it? I know I've been 'trained' these many years but still............

problembottom Sat 16-Jul-16 14:34:36

I would definitely contact the rescue and ask for advice. My cat, then a kitten, got stuck up the chimney when he was little. And he used to look so sad when we left the house. I'd never have left him overnight!

RubbishMantra Sat 16-Jul-16 15:06:27

God, this makes me feel so sad. I'd compare it to leaving a toddler who'd been taken away from his mum and siblings and left alone, confused and lonely.

Little Monsieur was 13 weeks when we adopted him, and I would get a friend round to babysit him all day when I was at uni. And he had MCat as company.

It will have a detrimental effect on his mental well-being. Either aloof and non socialised or clingy and fretful (lavish poo and pissing everywhere) every time he's left alone. Poor little soul.

Like a PP said, can her mum not move in for the duration?

I doubt the rescue would have handed him over if they knew he was going to be left alone for 9 days.

Why didn't she reserve him and collect him when back from her hols?

Must be a terrible worry for you OP. sad

StopLaughingDrRoss Sat 16-Jul-16 19:30:00

Apologies for not getting back sooner - long day out with DC!

I spoke to her mum at length today as I am genuinely really worried.. not helped by the automatic feeder not working apparently sad Her mum is going back tonight and will spend a few hours there but can't stay as she had a young DS and her GDD staying over.. it's just a mess.

I don't know which rescue unfortunately - I don't think her mum does either as it was sprung on her too! The holiday had been booked way before the kitten but obviously in her place, I would have postponed bringing the kitten home. He apparently is ok (apart from the food, obviously!!) but it just can't be good for him!

I am seeing her mum tomorrow so will offer to take him until mum is home. It's not great as I have a very stressed boy around other cats but perhaps if I can lock him in my bedroom (although it's not exactly cat friendly and that's where my boy hangs during the day looking out the window).. I will suggest that mum takes him?? Will that mess up the 'getting used to his home' smell thing although if I was him, I'd forever associate the house with abandonment!

It's just fucked up and doesn't bode well for the future, it really doesn't! I'm glad I'm not overreacting - I was utterly shocked when her mum mentioned it..

Poor little boy!!

Toddlerteaplease Sun 17-Jul-16 20:26:06

I know it's not an ideal situation, but isn't taking him out of a familier environment going to cause him to be more unsettled. Surely he's better staying put and getting used to his new home.

Wolfiefan Sun 17-Jul-16 20:30:04

Poor baby cat. They need so much attention and play at this age.
That's why we spent weeks without cats after losing our old girl last year. We had a holiday booked and it wouldn't have been fair to get a cat and leave it.
We've had our two nearly a year and I'm still worrying about leaving them (in a good cattery. Not home alone) while we go on holiday.
And she will come back and wonder why the sofa is shredded and the carpet is a litter tray and the cat doesn't know who the fuck she is.
Some people shouldn't have animals. angry

StopLaughingDrRoss Sun 17-Jul-16 21:40:40

The kitten is being left at his home but my friend spent a few hours there today and is hoping to do the same all week.. hard work though! And the feeder is working so that's something hmm He really is just a baby - her mum sent me a photo today and he is utterly gorgeous and so trusting looking (if that makes sense!)

I agree - some people really shouldn't have animals!

StopLaughingDrRoss Sun 17-Jul-16 21:41:55

And by friend, I mean the new owners mum (just realised that's confusing!)..

Wolfiefan Sun 17-Jul-16 21:42:19

Could we make up a MN kitten cuddling posse? Poor little mite being left. At that age mine needed so much.

LadyLayLay Sun 17-Jul-16 21:48:17

The kitten is in a warm, secure place. It has food and water, and someone to check on it each day. It's fine.

SuburbanRhonda Sun 17-Jul-16 22:08:30

Do you know much about the importance of socialisation in young animals, lady?

LadyLayLay Mon 18-Jul-16 08:14:53

Yes I do Rhonda. Which is why I have always kept my horses in small herds, guinea pigs and rats in groups and generally had dogs in pairs. Ok not disputing that animals need company.

But the girl is away for a week and the OP is acting as if the kitten has been dumped in a shed without food, water, or anyone to check on it.

If you put your cat in a kennel do you think they spend all day playing with it?

Give any rescue a call and I guarantee they wouldn't be interested - there is nothing they can do as the kitten has the essentials.

SuburbanRhonda Mon 18-Jul-16 08:24:43

Do you honestly think a boarding cattery would take a 12 week old kitten?

LadyLayLay Mon 18-Jul-16 08:44:23

Yes they do, proving all vacs are completed. I'd recommend Ferndown Cattery smile

Toddlerteaplease Mon 18-Jul-16 09:09:23

Lady, I totally agree. It's 9 days. Not 9 weeks! There is someone coming In daily to see to it. It is less than ideal But it's happened.

cozietoesie Mon 18-Jul-16 09:34:32

My main concern is that it doesn't bode well for the future. There may, of course, have been 'circumstances' but I would be real edgy about the future care that that kitten might receive.

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