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New foster cat issues - mostly a sleep issue!

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CozyLinusBlanket Sun 17-Jan-16 12:32:35

I'm looking for advice on this because I don't want to always bother the welfare officer with these issues, she's got enough on her plate.

I have had a new foster cat for about a week. She was with her previous family from kitten age and she's now about seven, so of course she's nervous about this change. In most ways she's as good as gold, but I'm finding night time a struggle.

During the day she is happy to be upstairs by herself and doze, but once it's the evening she stays close to me constantly and doesn't want to be alone. I tend to keep foster cats downstairs at night because I'm a terrible sleeper, I also have a special pillow because of a neck injury. I was told she doesn't like to sleep alone and was willing to try it, but when I say she likes to stay close to me, it's to the extent that she tries to share my pillow! And she's a little mardy arse if I try to even move her back a bit, so she takes over half the pillow and I have a stiff neck and headache in the morning.

I kept her downstairs last night, for the second time, and both times found her wedged in a little hiding place, terrified. I feel bad because she makes it clear she sleeps in my bed, to the point of prompting me with meows around 11pm!

If I make her sleep downstairs is she likely to get over her fear, or will I be making her miserable?

gamerchick Sun 17-Jan-16 12:39:12

Her own pillow with a hot water bottle?

It's such a nicer problem to have than peeing all over the place I think. I don't think I could make her stay downstairs if it scares her but find a compromise in the bedroom.

SunsetDream Sun 17-Jan-16 12:42:09

I couldn't put her downstairs - especially not after having been told already that she likes to sleep on the bed. I agree with making the other pillow/ part of the bed extra appealing.

CozyLinusBlanket Sun 17-Jan-16 12:48:01

AH, fake her out by pretending I like another pillow better, I'll try it! I'll dig the hot water bottle out too. I'll update if I need more advice, thank you! smile

gamerchick Sun 17-Jan-16 12:52:52

IT could be worse. Mine insisted on sleeping across my head the first couple of nights. No fun waking up with fluff up your nose grin

CozyLinusBlanket Sun 17-Jan-16 13:01:13

True! I had one who insisted on using the bath as his litter tray which was definitely more on the challenging side. Having a cat who is insistent on cuddling up to me is not a bad thing!

cozietoesie Sun 17-Jan-16 13:37:00

I've been trained by a long succession of Siamese. (Who have absolute bed rights - in fact, they regard being excluded from bed as an actual punishment.) I'd be real chary about making her sleep downstairs. I think she might end up a wreck from the sound of it.

Do you know her breeding? And have you actually allowed her inside the bed eg downaways from the pillow? That might be better for you.

CozyLinusBlanket Sun 17-Jan-16 14:20:06

She's not a traditionally highly strung breed now, she's a tabby - with symmetrical black markings on her back that make her look like a walking inkblot test.

I hadn't thought of letting her inside the covers no. I know that she doesn't think a roomy handpicked spot next to my legs is any good, she insists on being literally right next to my head. But if she doesn't go for the pillow plan, I'll try that. I won't leave her on her own again. Anyway, she's such a sweetie, I can't imagine I'll have her for very long, so if she's determined that we must be pillow buddies I'll just keep reminding myself of that!

CozyLinusBlanket Sun 17-Jan-16 14:20:28

*no, not now.

cozietoesie Sun 17-Jan-16 14:45:52

She actually sounds as if she just might have some Siamese or Oriental in her even if she's officially a DSH. (And given the male Siamese I've run across, if one of those got out, they'd at least be attempting to fraternise with half the cats in the UK!)

I think I'd try to let her go inside the bed and under the covers - your poor neck!

She's going to make someone a very fond companion when your foster is over though. smile

CozyLinusBlanket Sun 17-Jan-16 15:26:06

She is! And I'll make sure they will be fine with pillow sharing before I let her go!

AwkwardSquad Sun 17-Jan-16 16:20:58

My rescue cat, also a tabby, wanted to sleep on my pillow wrapped around my head, but took reasonably well to being gently evicted. She sleeps on the bed quite happily now.

cozietoesie Sun 17-Jan-16 16:23:34

I have just half a sense of a 'failed foster' shaping up here. wink

sashh Sun 17-Jan-16 18:46:57

Mine's tabby, she normally sleeps on me, or on the pillow, or tucked in next to me.

cozietoesie Mon 18-Jan-16 07:26:00

How did it go last night? smile

cozietoesie Mon 18-Jan-16 07:41:58

Sorry. I should have made clear that a 'failed foster' (in Litter Tray terms, anyway) is when you take a cat for fostering and bond wth it so strongly that it becomes your very cat and you can't give it back.

Personally, it's a job I couldn't really do - I think I'd likely become too emotional about my charges. smile

Meht Mon 18-Jan-16 07:45:37

Dont laugh, but can you get her a lovely soft toy to sleep with, next to her pillow?

RoastChickenDinner Mon 18-Jan-16 07:51:44

Glad you clarified Cozie, I didn't know that term and thought you were being uncharacteristically harsh!

cozietoesie Mon 18-Jan-16 07:52:32

Not laughing in the least. smile Although any Siamese worth their salt would take one look at a cuddly toy and say/make it clear that they were thinking ' Very nice - and now budge over so that I can cuddle in!' grin

Meht Mon 18-Jan-16 08:53:40

I saw a beatiful Siamese yesterday at our cat rescue centre, stunning. We went to look at a boy that had been on their website for 24 hours & when we arrived he had been reserved already, subject to checks.

My DD cried alllllll the way home, he was the first one in 6 months that was suitable to live with under 5s.

Hes called Max & I cant help thinkibg they named him after Eastender actor Max Branning, as they are both ginger grin

CozyLinusBlanket Mon 18-Jan-16 09:30:33

Oh, I'm afraid my finances are a bit wobbly at the moment, so fostering gives me feline company without any costs or long term responsibility. Failed fosters are not an option!

But a second pillow on the bed worked perfectly last night. She did still reverse her bum till it touched my head but it only took up an inch or two of my own pillow so I was happy with that, and no headache this morning smile

cozietoesie Mon 18-Jan-16 10:09:50

Uh Huh. grin

Good that you managed a reasonable sleep anyway. smile

hollinhurst84 Tue 19-Jan-16 15:51:15

Mine is the same but will now sleep on a pillow next to my head. Usually with his head in my hair snuffling and drooling on me hmm

cozietoesie Wed 27-Jan-16 06:14:53

How is the headache today? smile

hollinhurst84 Wed 27-Jan-16 23:07:45

This is fat cats new sleeping position. Apparently he thinks I am a giant hot water bottlehmm

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