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Wibhay Sun 20-Dec-15 21:49:01

Ok so I have a 3 legged cat who is currently very poorly. I rescued her in 2002 so I'm not sure of her exactly age but I'm guessing she's 16ish. Anyway I have no children and it's like she is my own child. I love her with all my heart and have been devastated the last week taking her to the vets, having scans etc.
Anyway someone has just turned around to me and said I'm so selfish and that for god sake it's only an animal. I tried to explain that I do not have children and so think of her as my child and how would they react if it was their child that was ill. Anyway I'm just really emotional right now as I don't want to loose her and especially not just before Christmas. Am I overreacting?

LaurieFairyCake Sun 20-Dec-15 22:06:03


Whoever said that is a twat. I lost my 19 year old cat last night and I loved him so dearly.

Take care of yourself, enjoy the time you have left but don't put her down too late.

So sorry for you thanks

anoldiebutagoody Sun 20-Dec-15 22:12:25

Wibhay of course you're not overreacting. flowers
My 17yr old boy is at the vet hospital right now and I'm in pieces cos I know I'll have to make a decision tomorrow if he's not improved.

Themodernuriahheep Sun 20-Dec-15 22:15:15

They're a twat, but try not to go on too much about it. People have varying views about pets and even with children they get fed up if you talk a lot about the child's illness. The brave face and stiff upper lip will get you more sympathy, I'm afraid.

Lots of thoughts. I'd be gutted if anything happened to our pet, and I have a

kittyvet Sun 20-Dec-15 22:22:31

Everyone is different but I have plenty of clients who feel just like you about their pets...and in fact I feel that way about my cats. Ignore people who can't accept that is how you feel. Big hugs and hoping your fur baby gets well soon!

timtam23 Sun 20-Dec-15 23:05:42

Sorry to hear about your cat. I hope she improves soon. When I lived alone with my first pair of cats they were often the only company I had and the only things I would talk to some days, if I didn't go out, so I would have been devastated if someone had said that to me. However I would just ignore the comment, hurtful though it is, as you are unlikely to talk them round to understanding how you feel.

I now have kids AND a cat so admittedly the cat occasionally slips down my priority list a bit smile, however he is still very important to me and would never be "just an animal".

anoldiebutagoody Mon 21-Dec-15 20:44:53

Are you OK Wib ?

VulcanWoman Mon 21-Dec-15 20:49:13

They're being insensitive and thoughtless.
Stay away from them if you can, you can do without that!
Hope your cat feels more comfortable soon.

RoosterCogburn Tue 22-Dec-15 14:24:46

They sound very insensitive - your love for your cat doesn't diminish other people's love for their children, and being a caring person isn't selfish in any form.

I hope your cat is recovering

maybebabybee Tue 22-Dec-15 14:29:04

So sorry to hear what that horrible person said to you flowers.

Non-animal people just don't 'get it' I'm afraid.

I hope your cat is feeling a little better.

Moln Tue 22-Dec-15 14:31:38

'Selfish'? Weird choice of insult anyway.

Some people do find it hard to grasp how loved and important cats, and pets in general, are to other people. If these some people have no ability to grasp not everyone feels and thinks the same as they do this usually results in them being rude fuckers.

I hope your cat is ok and you start to feel less worried about her

timtam23 Tue 22-Dec-15 16:44:53

Hope your cat is doing OK Wibhay smile

StillMedusa Wed 23-Dec-15 00:11:47

How is she today?

Non pet lovers just don't get it. (And I find people who don't have and love a pet very offputting...something missing in them!)

I have four kids and currently three cats. My love for them is only fractionally different, and when I lost my beloved Morph I cried more over him (and still do) than when my Dad died...I loved my Dad but he was a difficult man.Morph loved me completely and I felt privileged to have the total love and trust of a furry being.

However I may not have said that out loud to TOO many people....!

Geepee71 Wed 23-Dec-15 10:51:58

How you doing Wib?
Your cat is part of the family so no wonder you're worried and concerned.

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