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can't face this hard 'choice'

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ghostyslovesheep Wed 11-Nov-15 21:50:19

My Billy is 8 - he has had a brain tumour for 18 months

He has lost a lot of weight, is wobbly and now can't jump up or down, hurts himself running down stairs etc. He wont go outside - he used to love the outdoors but now he cowers and hides under the hutch and doesn't move

He wont use any litter trays - he poos and wees all over

He's a shadow of his former glorious cuddly amazing catboy self sad

I know the time is right - I am sat in tears - I can't face it

Stingslikeabee Wed 11-Nov-15 21:56:07

Poor Billy. This must be really hard for you OP, they really do become members of the family. I wish I had something profound to say but as a cat owner you really have my hugest sympathies, I can only imagine how you're feeling flowers

timtam23 Wed 11-Nov-15 22:01:17

Sorry to hear about Billy. Ii is so hard. I have been in a similar position with my 2 cats but they were very elderly so there was more of a sense of a life well-lived & coming to an end. I guess you need to think about Billy's quality of life & what is the kindest thing for him. He can't tell you what he wants so he relies on you to weigh the options up & make the decision. Really tough for you. flowers

DramaAlpaca Wed 11-Nov-15 22:08:28

Poor lad, he's too young isn't he? It's such a hard decision.

It sounds like it would be the kindest thing to do for Billy, tbh. If you think he's suffering, it's probably time.

I've read it on here many times - better a day too soon than a day too late.


ghostyslovesheep Wed 11-Nov-15 22:11:52

Thanks x It is a quality of life issue - Drama the 'day too soon' thing is spot on - I don't want him in pain

He is the most amazing cat - all three kids have mauled played with him and loved him - he's like Bagpuss - soppy and resigned to being loved

He's never bitten or scratched - but recently he did bite my youngest and he looked so sad sad

I have to think that it's best for him - but it's breaking my heart

DramaAlpaca Wed 11-Nov-15 22:20:28

He sounds so lovely ghosty. My heart goes out to you <hugs>

cozietoesie Wed 11-Nov-15 23:10:02

The decision isn't for you and the family after all - but just for him.

I think you can make it, ghosty.

Take care.

GiddyOnZackHunt Wed 11-Nov-15 23:17:04

It's an act of love, it really is sad
I've made that call a number of times and I know I did the right thing. They were loved very much and it was to stop the pain. He's biting, he doesn't want to be bothered.
It's time to step up and be the bigger person sad sad

ghostyslovesheep Thu 12-Nov-15 13:27:59

Made an appointment with the vet tomorrow - if they can't do anything to make him happier then I think it will be kindest sad

thank you cat people thanks

chemenger Thu 12-Nov-15 15:29:24

This is the right decision and you will be happier in the future for having made it, however hard it is now.

cozietoesie Thu 12-Nov-15 17:31:34

People will be around if you want to talk.

Take care.

MimsyBorogroves Thu 12-Nov-15 17:36:24

Sending you love. It is the hardest thing, but ultimately the biggest kindness you can give them in such situations.

Pipestheghost Thu 12-Nov-15 17:42:59

My thoughts are with you op flowers

TheoriginalLEM Thu 12-Nov-15 17:46:13

Thinking of you - its the right thing to do flowers

DramaAlpaca Thu 12-Nov-15 20:55:03

Handholding for tomorrow, OP flowers

GiddyOnZackHunt Fri 13-Nov-15 14:53:27

flowers for whatever news today has brought.

ghostyslovesheep Fri 13-Nov-15 17:15:00

Thanks so much x

He's gone - it was very peaceful and I was able to stay with him - the kids where there - middle one stayed outside - eldest left at the end (he was her cat) and little one patted him gently then they all came in to say goodbye once he was gone.

It's heartbreaking - worst was bringing home an empty cat box - he's being cremated x

So we are all sad and teary but I am happy it was the best thing for him x

Thanks for the hand holding thanks

ghostyslovesheep Fri 13-Nov-15 17:16:37

RIP lovely Billy x

timtam23 Fri 13-Nov-15 17:28:57

So sorry OP flowers
RIP Billy. That's a lovely photo, he looks like he is smiling!

cozietoesie Fri 13-Nov-15 17:59:52

I'm so sorry. What a great boy he was.

You did the right and loving thing.

GiddyOnZackHunt Fri 13-Nov-15 19:12:10

Sleep tight Billy
Glad it was peaceful ghostys

DramaAlpaca Fri 13-Nov-15 22:04:15

Oh ghosty, what a beautiful boy he was.

You've done the best thing for him. Glad you were all able to say goodbye.


Wolfiefan Fri 13-Nov-15 22:07:42

That's a gorgeous photo. You did the right thing. Absolutely the right thing. You are suffering but he is not.
Eventually you will be able to remember the good things and all the reasons you love him to bits.

mineofuselessinformation Fri 13-Nov-15 22:09:54

It's a hard decision, but the kindest one when you feel a pet is suffering.
Sorry you had to make it.

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