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My cat has separation anxiety <sigh>

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Katymac Sun 12-Jul-15 21:09:25

He tries to stop me leaving by closing the door or tripping me up

He tells me off when I get back, ignores me for 3/4 minutes then sits on me for the rest of the evening

He holds me in place when I try & get up out of a chair/bed

& sits on DH at inconvenient moments hmm

I'll never fix this will I?

cozietoesie Sun 12-Jul-15 21:30:44

Of course you can. Ignore it!

Just power on with your own life - he would certainly power on with his once he'd knocked you into shape. grin

Katymac Sun 12-Jul-15 21:50:18

I do ignore -but he sounds so heart broken after I leave(if DH is in the house it lasts until I get in the car then the cat is all over him wink)

RandomMess Sun 12-Jul-15 21:52:22

Well if you will get Orientals...

Katymac Sun 12-Jul-15 21:59:55

I know

But he's my baby

I do better with Separation anxiety with the children I look after- I think Siamese are a bit more single minded & less distractable wink

RandomMess Sun 12-Jul-15 22:17:39

Far better he behaves two-faced and abuses your dh than destroys your house as protest grin

Katymac Sun 12-Jul-15 22:21:31

I guess

He is a mummy's boy though & I do love him (in the winter when it's cold - right now....I'd rather he slept on a chair)

RandomMess Sun 12-Jul-15 22:27:38

Yeah our cats and dog all seem oblivious to the fact it is far too warm to be all cuddled up together one me confused

cozietoesie Sun 12-Jul-15 23:48:49


Just think to yourself 'I'm going to be Top Cat here'. Are you woman or mouse?

sparkysparkysparky Mon 13-Jul-15 07:20:06

Feebly suggest you try giving favourite treats when you leave so there's a positive association. Guessing your cat's mind control powers are very strong grin

Katymac Mon 13-Jul-15 20:37:55

Yep - we all know who is in charge I guess blush

SittingOnTheMoon Mon 13-Jul-15 20:45:32

Mine does this. When I go out I'm allowed to be out just over an hour then she goes to my OH and leads him to the door, she gets quite distressed. She's getting worse as she gets older as well.

I'm going to be out nearly all day on Wednesday, I'm in for a right telling off when I get back!

cozietoesie Mon 13-Jul-15 20:49:55

I shouldn't have asked that, should I? grin

I really don't think that Siamese mind having a strong minded human in charge of the house - in fact, they can be quite relaxed if you're doing all the hard stuff and keeping the enemy from the door etc. smile

Just keep talking to them and keep them on their toes and thinking - both are quite important becaue they're very bright cats.

Katymac Mon 13-Jul-15 20:54:40

Latest trick appears to be weeing in the bathroom sink....not ideal as we clean our teeth there - but possibly advantageous as it means less litter bought <sigh>

DH is NOT happy

cozietoesie Mon 13-Jul-15 20:57:22

It sounds as if he's attention seeking, Katy. What are you all doing to keep him mentally occupied? (He's only a young cat if I recall?)

cozietoesie Mon 13-Jul-15 20:58:05

PS - how many trays does he have?

Katymac Mon 13-Jul-15 21:02:03

He has one he isn't supposed to use looks at cat

He sleeps most of the time - ideally on me

When he's awake he sleeps on DH or the conservatory floor in a sunny patch

If no-one is home he sleeps on my bed or DH's chair

Occasionally he eats & then he sleeps again

cozietoesie Mon 13-Jul-15 21:11:33

Two trays minimum for a Siamese, i reckon.

And sleeping so much in a younger cat could be 'whiling away the time' tactics. When the kids are around I could understand him keeping out of the way but I think you need to be stimulating him more.

How old is he again?

Katymac Tue 14-Jul-15 08:45:33

I think he is 7 but he moves like an older cat

He goes in the back garden rarely but loves playing out on the road in the front with the cars silly cat

& the neighbours think he is thin & neglected hmm - he actually has a fat bottom wink

cozietoesie Tue 14-Jul-15 08:59:42

7 is young from my perspective. smile And Siamese are frequently thin elegant - it's their natural shape. I'd be starting a grooming routine every evening though. It's useful in the event of their becoming a bit staid in later life but they also love the undivided (they think) attention as part of their routine. (Even Seniorboy, at his age, comes running when I wave his grooming brushcomb and yell 'Grrooooommmmm!'.)

cozietoesie Tue 14-Jul-15 09:09:11

PS - I'd keep a weather eye on him if he's moving like an older cat. (This may be a useful read for you.)

I can't remember (lack of caffeine) whether Siamese have any particular breed predisposition to joint issues - other than hip dysplasia and its cousins - but he's starting to get up there with regard to age so it might be as well to be conscious of possible future issues so that you can make life as easy as possible for him.

Katymac Tue 14-Jul-15 18:46:36

Will do

RubbishMantra Tue 14-Jul-15 19:41:57

Does he have play-time? Using an interactive toy, like the Flying Frenzy? Adult cats still need playing with, it satisfies their natural instinct to hunt. You could also give those balls you can hide treats in a go.

Have you watched any of Jackson Galaxy's programmes?

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