We have had Sparkling Cat 4 years. She is a big cuddly grey lump and the whole family love her to bits.
Her bed is on a chair in our bedroom, she comes up with us at bedtime, and up until recently would get up with us the next morning with not a peep in between.
The last month or so she has started to wake in the night, jump onto our bed and demand fusses by headbutting us and padding on our chests. DH is fed up of it. But he does give her a fuss. Then when she's had enough she goes back to her bed on the chair.
I say he is rewarding her behaviour with a fuss but he says he has to do it to get her to go back to her own bed. Plus she's very insistent.
Last night it happened 3 separate times and DH isn't happy.
She has the run of the house bar the DSs' rooms at night. What would you do?
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What shall I do about this then?
Sparklingbrook · 19/04/2014 13:14
Oh how SWEET! I love shiny grey cats! 
It's not helpful advice I know, but I'd just give her a bit of a pet then encourage her back onto her chair. You know shutting her out is a recipe for disaster and a scratched door
You'll soon be doing it without realising in your sleep.... training complete! (Hopefully someone more helpful will arrive soon...)
She is getting away with it because she's a sweetheart Jon. 
She tries her luck with both of us, but DH is a lighter sleeper than me.
Just as an even more unhelpful aside, I recently downloaded this app that you set to record your sleep talking - it's activated by sound. When I reviewed it the next day it had recorded four separate instances of me, in my sleep, saying, "f* off Scabbers," "Scabbers geddoff," etc. I have been trained, as you will be
I will try a hot water bottle paper, i have one somewhere.
I think the ignoring may be the answer. it will be so hard though. like controlled crying.
She paws my face and if the covers are over it she pulls them off. She is very determined. I can't be mad at her though, I need to be firm though i think.
Yeah, I reckon if you stroke her she'll do it every night.
I tell mine NO! and tip her off the bed if she tries to insist on cuddles when I'm too sleepy. If she's "insistent" then so am I - she very occasionally gets shouted at when she's being very naughty, and insisting on waking me up for no reason then ignoring being pushed away would eventually be grounds for a good telling off.
At the moment I'm not sure if yours actually realises that you don't like her waking you up?
Yes she is gorgeous, what a pretty cat 
. I think of that colour as silver.
She definitely thinks DH is enjoying the nighttime fusses while she dribbles all over him.
Oddly in the daytime she isn't overly fussy. She follows us around and sits next to us on the sofa but not on laps at all.
That cartoon is brilliant Clobbered thanks for sharing-that really is her.
Is she a nervous cat?
I have a traumatised rescue cat, and for a long long time she would only come for a fuss when I was half asleep in bed late at night. She only felt safe enough to do so when I was lying down and comatose.
Maybe tell your DH to try and lie down on the floor (and purr ) for half an hour before bedtime and see whether she comes for a fuss then ?
She didn't have the best start. Her owner had a baby and they couldn't afford her so they passed her on to a household that already had a cat which she didn't get on with. So that family handed her into a Vets giving a false phone number.
She only trusts the four of us to fuss her. I could ask DH to fuss her when she sits next to him on the sofa in the evening.
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