Just seeking opinions as I really don't know what to do.
We have one cat. He was 1 of 3 that I got from a cat rescue place around 14 years ago. The other 2 cats (the mum plus another boy) have both died (over the last couple of years). All three were a little strange in their behaviour. Mum was VERY timid although once she trusted me (I was single and childless when I got them) she was ok-ish. One boy was slightly more friendly (very friendly when I was pregnant!). It is the behaviour of the remaining cat (boy) that concerns me albeit this is not solely the point of my post. Timid is not the word for this cat. He acts like he's completely and utterly terrified of every person and everything. This cat has lived a life of luxury and has never been subjected to any abuse whatsoever. Nowadays he rarely comes into the house (he has a catflap) and we have to push a bowl of food under the back gate in order to feed him. It's ridiculous. Whenever we have had the (rare) opportunity give him fuss etc he has enjoyed it - he will roll around on the floor wanting his tummy scratched and loves being brushed. Then 30 seconds after the fuss and everything has stopped he'll act like he's been beaten. And so it goes on. That said, he's NEVER been vicious/scratchy/bitey - his claws only come out if he's picked up but I think this is just in panic.
So, to get to the point. My DD has SEN. She loves animals. She has always been gentle with animals (she's never given this cat any reason to be scared of her). She is getting increasingly upset that our cat will have nothing to do with her/us. She doesn't understand why he won't come to her/let her stroke him - but, of course, I don't understand either so it is very difficult to explain to her why he's like it. His behaviour gets me down as well if I'm honest. The two cats I had before this group of 3 were fantastic. One of them was utterly devoted to me and 15 years after his death I still get choked up that he's no longer around.
DD is desperate to get another cat. DH has suggested we should get one. I am completely torn. On the one hand, yes it would be rather nice (albeit there are no guarantees) to have a cat that "gives" a little back (enjoys our company, enjoys being treated like royalty etc) and it would be lovely for DD to have a furry friend.
On the other hand, I have no idea what our current cat's reaction would be. I don't think he hates other cats but obviously this would be bringing another cat to share his territory. I don't want to be a bad situation worse.
So, what do you cat-ladies think? Terrible idea and we'll have to bide our time until the cat dies/PTS (for the right reasons of course)? Or go for it and obviously continue to feed current cat but kind of let him get on with it (he spends all his time in next door's garden). And if we do get a 2nd cat, should it be an adult or kitten? Given 2nd cat will probably encounter current cat at some point?
My guilt levels are running high at the moment. Sorry this post is a bit long as well.
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GiveMeStrength2day · 16/10/2013 11:59
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