Ponyo my thoughts are with you, it is a sad time, I have the same moments, my cat had "her" places to sit and I see them out of the corner of my eye but she isn't there
We took in a stray kitten a few weeks ago and if he were not around I'd be in a much more mournful state of mind - impossible to stay sad when a kitten is tearing about (we also have a 17 yr old male cat but he is on a slow downhill progression as well).
I'm picking up my cat's ashes from the vet tomorrow and also dropping off her unused medication and an unopened bag of prescription food - strangely I felt quite upset gathering all of that together
Oh it's so sad isn't it. Thanks to all who said to avoid saying cat had "gone to sleep", very good advice as I think I would have said it in a very well meaning way otherwise. Dd is 2.6 and doesn't understand that well, she's asked for cat a few times but hasn't got upset. Tbh I think it's easier telling a 2yo than a 10 yo winterwinds, your poor dd. how is she now?
Thanks to everyone again for being so kind. I keep noticing the cats bowl isn't on the floor where it used to be and feeling a bit sad
Sorry to everyone who has lost a cat on this thread. Winterwinds I know what you mean about going over the what ifs and only. It doesn't do any good does it.Those who love their pets the most seem to carry the most guilt.
3 1/2 weeks ago I had to have my 12 year old male pts. He stopped eating and drinking over the Bank Holiday weekend so couldn't get to the vet until the Tuesday. He also had Kidney and heart failure and he was shutting down. I knew it was time but still one of the hardest things I had to do especially as our 11 month old female had been run over outside our house 4 days earlier.
Explaining to my heartbroken DD (10) was even harder as she was hysterical. These two were her absolute best friends but I kept it truthful and told her exactly what happens when the vets euthanize a pet. I think younger children can deal with it more as it is explained in simple terms. Older children (well my dd does anyway!) need to know the in's and out's of everything to fully understand and accept it. We have lost 4 cats in 4 years and it was certainly easier for DD to accept the death of the other 2 when she was 6 and 8yo. She has asked lots more questions this time maybe its because we lost 2 in such a short time I don't know.
Just keep the good memories to the forefront of your mind and try not to keep going over the "what if's and the "if onlys" as hard as that is.
I have finally realised that it does no good and am torturing myself by doing this.
My old cat stopped eating over the weekend and I had to have her put to sleep on Monday but it was not entirely unexpected as she was 18 and we had been told she had kidney failure
It is really tough and there are always the "if only's"
I felt bad that I had got back from work very late all of last week and hadn't had time to really look at how my cat was doing, I think we could have gone to the vet a bit earlier and I hope she didn't suffer at all as a result.
My youngest is 3 and we kept things simple but honest for him, said the cat was dead rather than saying "put to sleep" and said she had been very poorly, too poorly for the vet to make her better. The DSs dealt with it in a very logical way & then asked what was for tea they have cried a little but are mostly absolutely fine - they drew a picture of the cat for me which was lovely & made me cry
Be gentle on yourself and remember the happy times with her
Ah been to the vets, puss had fluid on her lungs and the vets were with her when she died, they saw her stop breathing and said she probably would have died today at home so maybe best dp took her in?
Have told dd that cat died so we wouldn't see her again but the vet had looked after her. Dd looked horrified then said "but where's scrappy?!" (We have 2 younger cats, one of them called scrappy) then dd went off to find scrappy in the garden so she handled it ok I think!
Yes - use 'died' and 'gone' - definitely not 'sleep' or anything like that. You don't need DD worried about sleeping herself. I'd see if you can steer her on to how to bury her/her ashes - perhaps in the garden with a nice plant or stone over or something?
Oh I'm so sorry, ILOvePonyo. You all did absolutely the right thing in getting her up there as soon as you realized there was something wrong. And your DP was there with her, no? She wouldn't have felt alone.
And I've had to leave her as I'm on training today so dp is going to take her to the vets this morning hopefully.
She's not been eating for a day or 2 at least, but we only realised last night. She s been sleeping a lot and was all weak and floppy this morning, she's 12 years old.
Has anyone else had this and can at least reassure me she's not in any pain? I feel shitty for leaving her but work would have been charged had I cancelled this training last minute, also dd was a nightmare to get out of the house this morning for nursery because id put the cat on one o her blankets