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:-(( our lovely old lady has just been diagnosed with advanced cancer

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NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Fri 15-Feb-13 16:54:07

she has several large masses in her colon and her nodes and her spine :-((

she is home with me here, the vet has been amazing saying that we will do whatever it takes to make her comfortable. However he also wanted me to know that we would never regret making a reasonably early decision to say goodbye, but we may regret leaving it till she is suffering very badly.

she has been my friend for nearly 18 years... I don't know what to do...

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Tue 05-Mar-13 21:56:16

thank you ladies.
sad for all of you who have said goodbye to fury friends sad

WhatKindofFool Tue 05-Mar-13 15:06:46

I planted daffodil bulbs around where I buried my fabulous cat. They are coming up nicely now.
I hope you and your family feel better soon. It is awful when they go.

cozietoesie Tue 05-Mar-13 13:01:31

((( MrsSonky))). And all who are missing loved cats.

MrsSonky Tue 05-Mar-13 12:34:00

Hope you're feeling ok.

I had my old lady pts on Friday (fibrosarcoma). Your vet was right, I should have had the courage to do it sooner, so I'm glad your lady and you didn't linger. Age & disease comes to us all, it's just how we deal with it.

It will be blossom time soon. A beautiful reminder.

cozietoesie Tue 05-Mar-13 12:00:43

So sorry, Never. Good that you had that private time with her.

Sparklingbrook Tue 05-Mar-13 11:34:37

((hugs)) Never. How are the children?

I hope it's not too early to suggest but when our lovely old cat Midnight had to be put to sleep we got this to put in the garden. The children were keen to put it in Midnight's 'spot'. x

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Tue 05-Mar-13 08:38:10

Thank you for all your care ladies.
last night was very upsetting but when the vet left she spent the evening wrapped in my arms and blanket.
it was so good to be able to have that time.
this morning we have planted her under a cherry tree in the garden.

All done..
pic of her last night here

Frenchfemme Sun 03-Mar-13 17:28:58

Will be thinking of you all tomorrow. Lots of cuddles in the meantime. xxx

SecretNutellaFix Sat 02-Mar-13 20:42:31

She has been your companion for 18 years- that's the time of raising a child to adulthood.

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Sat 02-Mar-13 16:59:00

tea time so going to feed her,, some more chicken

crazynanna Sat 02-Mar-13 16:54:55

sad so sorry. She sounds a great girl and is so very lucky to have a family who loves her so much <<<<<hugs>>>>>

greenhill Sat 02-Mar-13 16:54:51

It is massive, she's a very important part of your family x

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Sat 02-Mar-13 16:53:57

thanks for the sneaky hug..
your online kindness has made my eyes water (again!)

Wolfiefan Sat 02-Mar-13 16:43:13

I disagree completely! It IS huge. We lost our boy about 18 months ago. They are a member of the family.
<Holds hand and sneaks a hug!>

Sparklingbrook Sat 02-Mar-13 16:39:51

It is massive. 18 years is more than massive. And it's happening to you right now and it's horrible.

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Sat 02-Mar-13 16:34:09

they know that she has cancer.
they know it isn't fixable
they know that she is going to die soon

they do not know that we are going to instigate the final call
nor that the vet is going to come here.. that is soemthing we are going to have to explain..

My thought is that this weekend we make it clear to them (and to use the above phrase about her body shutting down)
I am not going to tell them about the vet until Monday after school..
the vet is coming at 7pm.

They know about her accidents.

Thanks for your kindness... in know in the BIG wide world this isn't big cheese but it feels massive to us ..

lljkk Sat 02-Mar-13 16:32:06

Better she goes out on a high then after pointless suffering.
Sorry it's all so hard. sad

SecretNutellaFix Sat 02-Mar-13 16:27:45

Never, sorry you are going through this.

What do the DC know about her illness? Have you been able to explain that her body is shutting down?

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Sat 02-Mar-13 16:27:01

thanks sparkling..

greenhill Sat 02-Mar-13 16:26:37

Sorry to hear this. Hope you get a few more good memories with her and if possible take some photos, while she is still perky x

Sparklingbrook Sat 02-Mar-13 16:23:06

Never, I think you will just have to remind them of the wee/poo thing and tell them she can't go on if she can't poo and can't hold her wee. sad

Just keep cuddling, and stroking. (((hugs))))

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Sat 02-Mar-13 16:19:11

Oh this is horrid....
she has totally perked up now we have doubled the steroids..
she is now totally unable to go for a poo and is incontinent with wee
But chatty and cuddly and begging for food again...

The kids think she is better... sad

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Fri 01-Mar-13 22:43:00

thanks everyone..

cozietoesie Fri 01-Mar-13 22:23:00

She won't be feeling that well but that should be the limit of her awareness. Give her lots of love

Thinking of you.

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Fri 01-Mar-13 22:17:31

Nobhead.. she is going to be planted under the cherry tree in our garden.

She doesn't seem to be in any pain, we are going to double her steroids for the weekend.

Do you think she knows that she is dying?

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