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frillyflower Sun 23-Dec-12 17:35:55

We have 2 cats. The younger one has developed a complete obsession with me. Every time I go in a room she comes and stands in front of me and shouts at me. Whenever I sit down she jumps on my lap and purrs loudly while digging her claws in to my knee or arm. If I look like I am heading for bed she runs to the bedroom door (she's not allowed to sleep with us) and waits outside.

In the morning she's shouting outside my door as soon as she hears my voice. Grateful for the love and all that (if it is love) but it's getting weird. She's looking at me intently now and trying to lick my hands while I am typing.

DeafLeopard Sun 23-Dec-12 17:39:03

Is this a very recent thing? Any chance you could be pregnant? One of our cats who usually hated me, would not leave me alone when I was pregnant - even before I knew....

frillyflower Sun 23-Dec-12 17:46:08

Bloody hell I hope not ! I am 54!! Maybe she thinks I am old and won't be around much longer.

It's like being stalked by a loony with a crush. She's doing it now - sitting on my lap and wriggling about rubbing her head on me purring like a train.

If I look her in the eye and speak to her she puts her nose on my nose. She also tends to have a crafty bite if I try to nudge her away.

cozietoesie Mon 24-Dec-12 04:56:00

Sounds like day to day life with a Siamese cat to be honest, frillyflower! (Has she got any Siamese in her?)


stookiesackhouse Mon 24-Dec-12 05:28:30

This is like my cat with me.

I put it down to there just being me and her, and me spoiling her blush

Not sure what the answer is though!

If she is an indoor cat, I would start by trying to give her some access to outdoors, supervised or something. If you are the one who normally feeds her, I would start getting someone else to do it. Is there any possibility of letting her sleep with one of your children overnight?
I take it your the person who is around the most which is why you are the object of her affection.
Has she been spayed? I am assuming yes.
Also might be worth trying a feliway plug in because that might help her feel a bit more chilled.
The nose thing, by the by, is purely an affectionate sort of kissing thing and you are very honoured that she does it with you, it is mostly reserved for cat to cat interactions.

cozietoesie Mon 24-Dec-12 06:00:03

Now I know I'm speaking as a Siamese guardian of many, many years. (Got my first boy when I was 9 years old so I've been trained a long time.) Why worry about it?

I recall seeing a documentary some years back - I can't remember whether it was on Siamese cats or on Buddhist monks - but I have the visuals clearly in my head. A Buddhist monk in full meditation in his temple; with a Siamese draped around his shoulders. So. He was there - omming away - and yet. A hand went up to the cat for a gentle stroke in the midst of the contemplation.

Just enjoy it! (I would.)


frillyflower Mon 24-Dec-12 08:19:35

Cozie - funnily enough I do think she has some oriental cat ancestry. She is a short haired black moggie but she has a small pointy face and long snaky tail and long legs. Unfortunately she also has a massive great bowling ball of a body because she is quite possibly the greediest creature I have ever known! My friend has her brothers and they are slim and lithe and sleek blush

Maggie - she has complete access to outdoors ( but only really likes to nip out for a wee and then straight back in to stalk me closely while I do fascinating things like wash my face or read the paper).

She gets fed by everyone (ie not just me) mainly because none of us can resist the crazy shouting which occurs whenever she feels like breakfast or dinner.

She is supposed to be on a diet but as she eats the food of the other poor cat and take hardly any exercise the diet isn't very effective.

I love her really i do but the Big Cat Love is a bit claustrophobic. And also painful when she bites me unless I submit totally to the love fest.

Fluffycloudland77 Mon 24-Dec-12 09:34:55

I have a furry stalker from 5-7.30am every morning. If I havent sold him by the end of the week we will have to go into hiding.

It's the only way.

cozietoesie Mon 24-Dec-12 13:30:13

Well O Owner of the Bowling Ball On Legs frillyflower. The thing about Siamese blood (and I guess Oriental as well) is that along with the people obsession goes a very healthy respect for discipline.

They enjoy structure so you've really got to stop being under the paw and start saying NO . She may be a bit shocked at first but, trust me, she'll come to respect it - and a little bit of research on the net will tell you the perils of having an overweight animal.

I'd (personally) allow her into your bed of a night and other times. That may be because I've never had a Siamese that didn't require to sleep with me but it's extremely handy as well. Not only do they get their fill of 'MY PERSON' at night time but they'll go to the bed when they're at a loose end and wallow in 'PERSON' smells and feelings - leaving you to do what you want.

cozietoesie Mon 24-Dec-12 13:33:47

PS - don't worry about her being in bed at - how shall I put it? - inopportune times. They ignore it.


frillyflower Mon 24-Dec-12 14:01:35

I am really ashamed of the size of the cat. They each get half a Sheba small carton thing in the morning and a small bowl of iams biscuits in the evening. Occasionally they get a bit of raw meat or fish (and some poached chicken if they are good).

Older cat is perfect weight but takes a lot of exercise, always hunting mice and terrorising neighbours' cats. 'Little' cat (we actually call her that although she is so tubby) spends most of he day indoors dozing and smooching the humans and finishing any food the other cat has misguidedly left for later.

The vet sold us low cal food as we can't feed them separately and little cat actually put weight on.

I'll try to be more of a disciplinarian (in fact she does seem to obey the rules about not jumping on the kitchen counters and leaving the bedroom when DH comes to bed - unlike the other cat who is Very Bad Indeed).

She can't sleep with us as DH hates pets on beds.

cozietoesie Mon 24-Dec-12 14:07:07

Blimey. Seniorcat -who is 18 and pretty inactive - has about 2-3 pouches a day equivalent. and our conern is keeping his weight up.

What is she stealing?

frillyflower Mon 24-Dec-12 14:52:56

Funny you should say that because she sometimes comes in the house licking her lips. I can't imagine where she goes though because I have never seen her coming over the garden walls (too much effort).

cozietoesie Mon 24-Dec-12 15:07:49


six-dinner sid

Autumnchill Sun 30-Dec-12 06:03:55

Sounds like my cat who is part oriential. If I leave the room, he will follow within 20 seconds. He sits on the bath when I go to the loo then jumps up next to the sink when I wash my hands. He sits in between my husband and I on the sofa and just stares at me constantly. He sleeps on my back most nights and bites my nose to wake me up. We call him my shadow or stalker and its become a standing joke that he is only ever 2 feet behind me at all times.

I adore him! (Although not at the moment as he keeps nudging the iPad while I'm trying to type)

cozietoesie Sun 30-Dec-12 07:43:02

Just one word of warning about that. My third last cat who was, like the rest, very bonded to me, decided to come into the bathroom when I was having a bath and leapt in to it to be with me. (He absolutely hated water but had no idea what a full bath was.)

Mayhem ensued - so just be careful. If a head comes round the door when you're in the bath, sprinkle/throw a few drops of water its way as discouragement.


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