Hello, this might be a case of "shutting the gate after the cat has hissed" but we have just brought home an 8 week old kitten (male) and not sure how to introduce / settle him in with our older (2yo) female cat.
has anyone got any suggestions? We can shut our kitchen / living room off from the rest of the house so that the older one can escape upstairs without being followed, and she can get outside as well. At the moment they are both in the kitchen / living room avoiding each other but the little one has been at the big ones biscuits already which did not go down well
I suppose I don't try and "force" them to get on, just leave them be? The bigger one has hissed and growled at the little one and is now sulking behind the sofa.
Don't forget to still make a big fuss of your older cat so that she knows you still love her. Kittens can be very demanding and it would be easy to accidentally give the older cat less attention. It's good that the older one has some space to herself. Good luck with the ongoing introductions!
i have, in my time, brought home 2 strange kittens to my older cats. The kitten had to sleep upstairs in the spare room for the first week as my boy cat cried his head off and hated her. It took a good few weeks of them smacking each other and deciding who is boss but now they're the best of friends.
Give it time, don't rush it and let them do what cats do. They'll hiss, smack and maybe fight. Let them, they need to decide the pecking order.
Kitten (Jasper) has settled in well, currently climbing all over me and purring louder than any cat I've ever heard
Big girl cat (Tabitha) is spending most of her time outside, she now won't come in to eat so I'm leaving it in our covered bit outside, just to make sure she eats, she came in earlier but scarpered as soon as she clapped eyes on kitten. She is coming in overnight though to overheat me in bed
Really hoping this improves over next few days / weeks. She's a lovely cat & has always been very loving & cuddly
We did this back in December last year - DDs Xmas gift was a 9 week old Kitten - our 2 year old Cats was NOT happy & we were very worried for a few weeks - they are now sleeping together curled up in 1 big fur bundle on the bed behind me & spend their time racing around the house play fighting & boxing - great fun to watch & they really do love each other
it did take a while, but the worst was over in a few weeks - we dared leave them alone together by then & DH made a point of making a BIG fuss of Big girl & never the kittten until she settled, which we think helped her feel less pushed out, so it can work out brilliantly - it has in the past for us before too