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I'm just about to go and say goodbye to my wonderful cat :(

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DrSpechemin Fri 19-Nov-10 17:45:05

Just found out he's got advanced kidney disease - I'm so sad

He's too ill for treatment and I just want him to be comfortable.

He's a rescue cat and was very badly treated - he grew from being a frightened cat into the most affectionate family cat - I'm so sad - its ridiculous - he's only an animal but he was such a part of our family

Goingspare Fri 19-Nov-10 17:47:33

Oh I'm sorry. It's not ridiculous to be sad.

Well done for giving him a happy life.

taintedpaint Fri 19-Nov-10 19:34:30

I'm very sorry for your loss Dr. My pets are like family to me and I am devastated when I lose any of them.

DrSpechemin Fri 19-Nov-10 19:46:50

I'm back now - they were lovely at the vets - we've brought him back with us and will bury him in the garden tomorrow.

DC think he's asleep and will die overnight - they've said goodnight to him - didn't really know what to tell them - he's the first one to die.

I feel we definitely did the right thing as he was so poorly when we saw him at the vets - I don't think he'd have lasted the weekend.

sharbie Fri 19-Nov-10 19:48:19

big hug - he sounds like he had a very happy life with your family

whomovedmychocolate Fri 19-Nov-10 19:49:58

One of mine died of kidney disease. I had him put to sleep when there was no more treatment and frankly I'd left it too long and he was a shadow of his former proud self

You did the right thing. I'm very sorry for your loss.

DrSpechemin Fri 19-Nov-10 19:52:09

thank you - its very well received - I just can't stop blubbing.

his brother doesn't seem to have noticed that he's gone yet - They were very close - slept cuddled up together and played together all the time - do cats go into mourning like elephants?

taintedpaint Fri 19-Nov-10 20:00:15

I've already said it once, but I'll say it again, I'm so sorry you're going through this. Big hugs to you and your DCs (and your other little furry baby).

thirtysomething Fri 19-Nov-10 20:08:11

Am so sorry. It is truly awful to have to go through this.

As others have said, you did a lovely thing in rescuing him and loving him so much. And you gave him the final act of kindness in letting him go with dignity. I'm sure he couldn't have wanted for a lovelier owner.

Big hugs sad

DrSpechemin Fri 19-Nov-10 21:43:56

have just tucked him into his box for tomorrows final goodbye - dc's have made him cards to be buried with him and we're going to buy some snowdrop bulbs to plant over him so we can be reminded of him. Off to bed now as exhausted.

PamelaFlitton Fri 19-Nov-10 21:45:03

Awww sad sad

I would be absolutely on the floor. Sounds like he's had a great life with you though

taintedpaint Fri 19-Nov-10 21:50:17

Aw I just had a little cry for you. Sounds like he was so loved. You sound like a lovely family.


confuseddoiordonti Fri 19-Nov-10 21:56:32

You poor darling. I would be in pieces too. Everyone is right, you have done the right thing and I hope that soon you can remember the good times more than this very sad time.
You were very lucky to have him, and he was equally lucy to have had you.


1Catherine1 Fri 19-Nov-10 21:58:46

I'm sorry for your lose Dr. I can understand how upset you are and I cried for over 24 hours when I was told my cat might be ill. It is not unreasonable to be upset, it just shows how much you loved him. He was obviously more than just a pet and was one of the children.

magnolia74 Fri 19-Nov-10 22:02:34

my thoughts are with you xxx

we said goodbye to our eldest cat a few months ago sad

DrSpechemin Sat 20-Nov-10 07:36:29

Aw - thank you every for your kind thoughts.
He was like one of the children really - when we got him and his brother they had been so badly abused that they couldn't deal with any human contact - over about 4 years of gentle coaching they really came out of their shell - the one who died was the most affectionate out of the pair of them.

DC's woke up this morning and asked if he'd died and we said yes - he's stopped breathing in the night - they seem able to deal with that.

DH is going to dig a hole and we'll bury him later this morning.

LittlebearH Sat 20-Nov-10 07:47:19

Ahh DrS

Know how it feels. My little grey persian had the same disease. It was heartbreaking when she passed away. I was shocked at how upset I was.

He was lucky in the end to have a good family who loved him very much.

Thiking of you and your family this morning.

ClaireDeLoon Sat 20-Nov-10 07:51:44

I'm very sorry, it's awful thing to go through.

I lost my old boy the same way on Monday, he'd had kidney disease for two years. It was time for him but that doesn't make it easier.

Glad your DC's are OK

DrSpechemin Sat 20-Nov-10 21:30:21

Claire - sorry for you to have to go through it so recently too - we didn't even know there was anything wrong with him which makes me feel awful - I just thought he was a bit off colour for the last week and then suddenly he went downhill overnight.

For such little animals they really are part of the family aren't they.

His brother is starting to act very strange - keeps just sitting and staring at the door as if he's waiting for his brother to come in - he hasn't eaten anything either. When we brought him home from the vets his brother didn't even seem to notice it was him - is that normal do you think?

ClaireDeLoon Sat 20-Nov-10 22:19:12

Cats I think are very resilient and live in the moment more than we do. I think any upset will be hopefully for a few days only.

I didn't bring Harry home as we arranged a cremation but when we lost another cat on the road Harry did go smell her body and was OK and accepting. The one that didn't seemed to search for her and was stressed.

I have two other cats and one was initially a bit stressed but seems fine now, one has been fine. They are both OK now, they weren't siblings but were a tight knit group with my old boy very much the boss, so there will be a period of readjustment here.

If you are worried maybe try a feliway diffuser or a few drops of Bach rescue remedy in their water bowl.

How old are they?

mogmum Mon 22-Nov-10 15:58:14

Have just read your message and wanted to say how sorry I am, my thoughts are with you and your family
I lost one of my cats in September and it was the most heartbreaking thing I have ever experienced.
My other cat seemed a bit lost for a few days but I think he's getting better now.
We had our cat cremated but havent yet explained it fully to my DD who was 6 at the time as she's quite sensitive, She understands that she's not here but still misses her loads and gets quite upset.
She has made a little book with a picture of the cat on the front and we have had to write our favourite memory of her in it, my DD keeps this book with all her books in her room

MassiveKnob Mon 22-Nov-10 16:00:52

oh sad sad

Having been there earlier this year, I know how hard it is. Hope you are all ok x

susue Mon 22-Nov-10 16:06:25

Sorry to here about your beloved cat, he's had a good life with you though and you're doing the right thing for him now. Last week I had to have my hamster Max put to sleep, he had a tumour, and I was so upset. No matter how big or small these pets are they are a big part of our lives x

The3Bears Mon 22-Nov-10 16:10:17

So sorry, its so heartbreaking they really are part of the family arent they

mykiddies Tue 23-Nov-10 13:29:45

So sorry you lost your dear friend. My own cat (14) is v ill at the moment. I haven't stopped crying and it's still touch and go. We have brought him home and he has ate a bit. He has liver disease. I know it might come to him not getting better. I am heartbroken. ()

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