I am going to miss our dog

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bloodywhitecat Wed 22-Jul-20 19:59:03

He's going into foster care tomorrow (which is weird as we foster babies).

OH has just been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and is likely to be transferred to a hospital over an hour away from here. I have no-one to care for DDog so the rescue he came from have offered to foster him until we know what's what with treatment etc. I don't want DDog to be spending hours on his own here in a crate but I am dreading him going tomorrow. I am sure many will think we don't deserve DDog but I don't know what else to do.

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BiteyShark Wed 22-Jul-20 20:02:27

So sorry to hear that OP thanks

Hopefully he will be back with you both soon.

ViperBugloss Wed 22-Jul-20 20:03:02

Oh bloodywhitecat I saw your other thread. I am so sorry you are having to deal with this as well as everything else.

You are doing the right thing by your dog and he will be well looked. It is one less thing for you to worry about. You need to look after yourself and your Ddog will be glad to see you when it is the right time


You absolutely do deserve Ddog and are doing what is right for him in a stressful time

icedaisy Wed 22-Jul-20 20:10:02

OP nobody should think that and if they do, they don't have the empathy and compassion needed to either have a dog or comment.

You are being incredibly brave and I wish you and your family well.

Are you going to be allowed to visit dog if you are able? Just to say it won't disrupt him and will give you a boost. Dh brought dog to hospital car park to see me and the cuddle kept me going all week. She was fine when he took her home again.

bloodywhitecat Wed 22-Jul-20 20:21:23

I'd love to be able to visit but his original foster mum who looked after his mum and him and his 11 brothers and sisters has offered to take him so he'll be a two hour drive away I am not sure how easy it will be with two babies under the age of nine months. One of his sisters still lives there and he's a sociable little thing so I am sure he will love it there.

Thank you for the kind replies. This is our Alfred.

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fivedogstofeed Wed 22-Jul-20 20:26:49

That's so hard but he will be loved and happy. At least you won't have the added stress of leaving him at home and worrying about him alone. Great that the rescue could give this backup.

zaffa Wed 22-Jul-20 20:26:57

Oh OP I'm so sorry for how hard everything is for you. You absolutely do deserve DDog and bollocks to anyone who suggests otherwise. What you are doing is sad and brave and selfless as it's for his own best interests.
I do hope things improve for you - a very very big hug x


icedaisy Wed 22-Jul-20 20:27:39

Oh he's lovely.

I'm sure he will have a great time and I hope he's back with you as soon as possible.

GrumpyMiddleAgedWoman Wed 22-Jul-20 20:37:26

OP, flowers

Ken1976 Wed 22-Jul-20 20:37:43

Your lovely boy is the image of my sons dog , Jet. They got him as a rescue from the Newcastle area.
Fosterers look after these dogs for the love of it so I'm sure your boy will be as happy as Larry and you will be better able to care for your husband knowing that he's well cared for . 💐 for you both x

Sheenais Wed 22-Jul-20 20:43:37

Sorry about your husband’s diagnosis and sorry about your dog. I think you are doing the right thing, it is out of love that you have to do this. Hopefully you will all be reunited again. It does sound like he will have an absolute ball though, with his sister and lots of new friends.

Pubertsmyfavename Wed 22-Jul-20 20:55:20

You're putting yourself in the wrong box, please don't. There are feckless owners who quite literally get rid of animals because they can't be bothered, didn't do enough research, didn't plan for having them and they have judgement and phrases such as 'don't deserve the dog' thrown at them. You clearly don't fall into that category. This situation isn't your fault and it will be the best thing, far worse would be to keep him home and 'see how it goes', you clearly have the insight to realise he'd be in a worse situation and you're taking the painful steps now to prevent it. You're the complete opposite of someone who doesn't deserve a dog!

tabulahrasa Wed 22-Jul-20 22:25:06

If it helps at all, I foster dogs who go back to their owners afterwards...

They arrive a wee bit confused but settle in fairly quickly and are quite happy here then are delighted to go back to their owners.

They basically come here and have a holiday for a few months.

Thimble282 Thu 23-Jul-20 09:51:33

I’m so sorry to hear about your DH OP. Love and best wishes to your both and to your Ddog. Hopefully you’ll all be back together again soon xx

TheVanguardSix Thu 23-Jul-20 10:02:35

OP, I've been following your other thread (my brother was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer 3 years ago, so I understand where you're at). I feel for you! Dogs are emotional rocks, such fine and loyal friends. Your dog will be loved and cherished. And you will be able to focus on your DH's treatment and comfort without any guilt. You're doing the right thing by all of you. Don't feel any guilt. You're doing what you have to do and your dog's foster carers will give him the devotion he needs while you devote yourself to DH's plight. Godspeed! I really, really, really hope your DH has good luck in his bad luck. Not all pancreatic cancers are lethal. And the biopsy isn't always right. Make sure they biopsy the hell out of his pancreas if they do open him up for a Whipples (usually he'll do radiation and chemo to shrink the tumour before they perform this radical surgery). This is how my brother found out he had a totally different type of pancreatic cancer to the one he was initially diagnosed with based on his early biopsies. It wasn't until they opened him up and saw the pancreas, biopsied it like mad, that he got a different result. Fight hard. And trust that your dog will be well and loved.

bloodywhitecat Thu 23-Jul-20 19:39:11

He went at about 4pm, just as the power line to our house came down (don't ask! grin ). I miss him already, so far I have told him to "wait" while I went round to the sort out the chickens and called him for his dinner. He remembered his foster mum but he did stress when we put him in the car sad.

Thank you for the positive story @TheVanguardSix it definitely helps and thank you too @tabulahrasa, your words helped enormously. Thank you all for your kind words.

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Glitterb Fri 24-Jul-20 14:37:33

You are doing the right thing OP, it will give you some time to spend with your husband without worrying about the dog.
The dog will have a lovely holiday and you can get him back when things settle down

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