I adopted a Sprocker spaniel bitch at the beginning of October last year. She is 3 years old (turned 3 two weeks after we got her) and was spayed by the rescue. She is clearly much more anxious/highly strung than we were told. We were told she's come from a home with 3 dogs and due to relationship breakdown the younger sprocker half sisters were miserable and needed to be rehomed- no issues. She was the youngest and we were told she was very submissive.
The issues we actually have, 7 months on, are:
- refusing to poo in the garden in the afternoon, no matter how long we're outside
- toileting in the house overnight if there are stresses in her day/changes in her routine
-refusing to walk with DH and I and if the DC are in the garden, and even just in the house sometimes which is awkward now if not everyone wants to walk
-barking constantly at the DC and I on walks if off lead- would never run away, and so very frustrating that now she's on the lead more and more as she doesn't walk well on the lead. Her anxiety/ excitement levels are so high she often won't take a treat, can't listen. Of course, she also won't toilet on the lead...
- refusing to go with a dog walker (when not on lockdown) . We've tried day care, a group walk, a local walk, and a different walker and 1:1. She either runs away, tries to run away, walks very reluctantly and will not wee or poo or refuses point blank to walk
- barking at the children playing in the garden, stressing if shut into the house- very car sick/ anxious in the car
I have been going to training with her, based on the Absolute Dogs programme, so all positive work, games based. I think the trainer would say her stress bucket is too full/ too over stimulated, but in lockdown walking her separately isn't possible and I am despairing at how awful she is with the whole family walking her together. Half th point of getting her was to get out walking more as a family. Now, she won't even come running with me as I never leave an empty house, walks are stressful and miserable, with either constant barking or constant pulling on the lead.
My DH, always reluctant to have a dog, has also said if she goes back that's it, he won't get another dog, and the Dc adore her (DTs age 8 and DD age 9)
I am really conflicted. I feel she should have gone to a much quieter home. One lockdown is over she'll be left again due to refusing to go with a dog walker (I work 3 days a week, term time only). Is she ever going to fit into our family or do I need to accept she isn't the right dog for us?