To rehome or not?

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ElphabaTheGreen Sat 08-Feb-20 16:37:55

We have two DDachshunds. They were my DM’s who lived in a granny flat attached to our house until she died suddenly and unexpectedly three years ago - we did all the feeding, walking, vet visits etc because she physically couldn’t, and they basically spent sun up until sun down on her lap under a blanket being stroked and spoiled.

DH and I both work FT and have two DCs, 7 & 5, so are incredibly busy, rarely home and have very little desire to have these lovely but demanding and fairly expensive dogs. We have done our best and have never neglected them - they’ve never missed a vaccination, get check ups every six months, hundreds of pounds spent on tooth-scaling (and extraction 🙄) every year, and we have a lovely dog walker take them for an hour every weekday so they’re not completely by themselves while we’re at work/school. They have full access to the house and large garden all day long, so it’s not like they’re left bursting to wee/poo either as they can take themselves out through a dog flap whenever they like. They have free access to the sofa when we’re home and sleep in our bedroom under their own king sized duvet at night, so they are well-loved and looked after - when we’re around.

DDachsie1, however, looks like she’s probably on borrowed time. She’s almost 13 - not old for a mini dachs, I know, but she’s increasingly frail, not eating, declining walks and the vet’s not happy with her latest blood tests.

DDachsie2, however, is a very sprightly 8. I sense he’s got years left in him. himself in a house all day, broken up briefly by a dog walker with hours alone either side?

I’m very torn as to whether we should keep him or re-home him when DDachsie1 goes. We are absolutely, under no circumstances, getting another dog when she goes. DH and I would really prefer not to have the dogs at all as they’re extra effort we don’t need or want on top of very busy lives, but our DCs love them and we really do not want to give the message that if things get ‘hard’ with a dog, you give them away. We also think they’ve learned a lot about responsibility and caring for an animal by having them. DDachsie2 was also a rescue - he was ditched by a shitty breeder when she was done using him for stud, and DM was delighted to give him a life in the lap (literally) of luxury. I don’t want the poor thing to have another change of home when he was already unwanted elsewhere, but his quality of life now is/will be very different to what we expected when we assumed he would be spending his entire life on DM’s lap.

What are your thoughts and please be kind. I want, first and foremost, what’s best for DDachsie2.

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Velveteal Sat 08-Feb-20 19:49:57

It sounds like he’d make a wonderful companion for someone elderly and perhaps living alone.

ElphabaTheGreen Sat 08-Feb-20 20:25:35

Which reminds me of his one and only issue Velveteal...he’s perfectly housetrained for us, but put him in any new house it’s like he’s never been outside in his life 🤦🏻‍♀️ We had to completely re-housetrain him from scratch when we moved a few years ago, and I had despairing phonecalls from the dog boarder we used summer before last when we went on holiday because he was going absolutely everywhere but outside. The dog boarder we used more recently when we went on holiday was far easier going about it, but confirmed she spent the entire two and a bit weeks we were away, bar the last three or four days, cleaning up messes and convincing him to go out. It would have to be a fit, mobile, patient and committed person to take him!

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AvocadosBeforeMortgages Sat 08-Feb-20 22:04:47

For what it's worth, I know the Red Foundation (breed rescue) has a lengthy waiting list of people hoping to adopt a dachshund.

Dogs are crap at generalising their learning from one scenario to another, which will be what is (not) happening with the house training when he stays elsewhere. However, anyone who adopts a dog should expect a few rough edges, and if that's the worst you can day about him he'll be perfectly adoptable.

How does DDog2 cope with being left during the day?

Pegsinarow Sat 08-Feb-20 22:08:28

Check out Facebook - Daschunds Needing Homes

AwkwardPaws27 Sat 08-Feb-20 22:16:32

I'd second the Red Foundation. They work really hard to find suitable homes for dachshunds and provide back up for life.

PhotoFit Sun 09-Feb-20 05:18:23

Go with a reputable "rehomer" and do not give it a second thought. I have always adopted older dogs. (Toileting in a new environment can sometimes be a problem but by no means always.)

If healthy, they are in demand by people not wanting a youngster racing around the place, so better to "let go" sooner rather than later.

A "rehomer" that places dogs in "foster homes" rather than kennels would be my preference as it is less upsetting for the dog.

Don't worry about him - you will miss the dog more than he misses you. Once he gets a new slave, you will be history smile


ElphabaTheGreen Sun 09-Feb-20 07:59:24

Thanks everyone - you’ve given me some very reassuring options.

^ How does DDog2 cope with being left during the day?^

At the moment, fine, but he’s only ever been with DDog1, bar the odd day here and there when she’s been at the vet for a day for teeth or minor procedures. I don’t know how he’d be in the long term as an only dog. I suspect fine, but it doesn’t seem like much of a life.

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wetotter Sun 09-Feb-20 08:56:52

If the dog is fine, they're fine - what seems like 'much of a life' in human eyes isn't really relevant.

In the short term, increase the dogsitting when you are out for a lengthy time. Are yr DC playing with the dog, and doing all the hound care during the school holidays?

If you do think rehoming is best, do take your time to find an organisation which you have complete faith in. Going to a good home where he fits in well is also a good outcome.

ElphabaTheGreen Sun 09-Feb-20 10:41:56

We can’t afford to pay for any more day care for him than we are. As it is, we’re really only paying the dog walker for half an hour, but she takes him for an hour because she’s generous. He easily costs us over £100 per month in dog walking and insurance.

School holidays - we’re out and about most of the time because we’re just not ones for staying in (we still keep up with the dog walker during hols as we assume we won’t be in), or away, so there’s boarding fees, or we’re still working and the DCs are in holiday club.

DCs build ‘dens’ for the dogs, cuddle them, carry them up/down the stairs and do the lifting on/off sofas (dachsies and their backs...), pick up the dog poo. DH does the feeding because we need to keep an eye on DDog1’s intake at the moment. I do the vet runs because I work in (human) health care and understand the ‘big words’ better than DH whenever there’s anything wrong with them.

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ElphabaTheGreen Sun 09-Feb-20 11:22:30

To give more perspective, the dogs are on their own from 7:30am until 6pm or just after, broken up by the dog walker for an hour around 1-2pm. We’ve never had any complaints from the neighbours about lonely barking and there have been times when I’ve been home ill for the day without the dogs knowing, and they’re very settled and I can hear them just pottering about or sleeping. They do still have each other, though, but I don’t know for how much longer as I have a bad feeling about DDog1.

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