We have a lovely, feisty little Lakeland terrier who is 10 months old. We also have a 20 month old daughter and in retrospect, no there is no way I would advise anyone takes on a puppy and a toddler. It has been a tough journey managing both of them, but we have finally felt as if we are turning a corner; he is so much more happy to chill around us and is really part of the family now.
The biggest issue we have had with him has been him barking at small children. I have never encouraged my daughter to be overly touchy feely with him and have always managed their interactions carefully. I have read and watched stuff on dog body language and he never shown any signs of being anxious or defensive in her company. But there has been numerous incidences of him barking at small children on walks and when we are in the car. I have sought advice from a behaviourist as it has obviously concerned me greatly. I have been following her advice eg avoiding all situations where at all possible, using open bar/closed bar when children in sight etc and I thought we were seeing progress.
Last weekend we went away with family and went for a walk. A group were walking ahead of us including a few small children. Dpup noticed them and at times wanted to pull ahead as they were playing in puddles etc which he loved but on the whole ignored. I kept lingering a little though as was keen to keep as far away as possible (dpup on lead the whole time obv). Eventually they stopped and the dad came back to speak to us as he had a similar dog in the past. Dpup said hello to him fine but I hadn’t realised the daughter was coming over to say hi to him as I was talking. Totally my fault - I let my guard down - but as she put her hand out to say hi (in gloves btw but not sure if this is relevant) he lunged towards her. No contact made and she was totally nonplussed, as was her dad, but tbh I was devastated. This is a game changer for me.
So what do I do next? Obviously I do not want to just pass this problem onto someone else. I know without careful managing and training this could get worse. I am taking him to the vets and hoping to get a behaviour training referral once anything physical has been ruled out, but I’m not sure even if I put the work in, if I can ever totally trust him. I have lots of nephews and nieces and friends with children and I’m just not sure I could ever say for definite that he won’t lunge or bite. I feel so awful. I feel like we have let him down even though I’m not sure what we could have done differently. Is there a chance he will grow out of this or do we have to seriously start thinking about rehoming to someone who doesn’t have regular contact with small children. Sorry for the essay!
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Bigmango · 01/01/2020 21:17
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