In July our family cat was hit by a car, I was (still am) absolutely devastated and still grieving. We have always had animals and I really needed another life force in my home. A couple of months later we adopted a young terrier cross from a rescue.
He’s a lovely dog, wonderful temperament, so cuddly and loves a good walk. Has some behavioural issues which we are working on. The only thing is, and I feel terrible for even saying it, is that I still don’t feel like he ‘fits in’ perfectly into our home yet, is that normal??? And if so, when will that be?
I’m 100% committed to him, as I said he’s a wonderful boy. But when we first got him I really struggled, the first 4 weeks were horrendous and I cried loads thinking I’d made a huge mistake. I’m not a stupid person and have had animals all my life, but the level of commitment really threw me, and also looking after a 3 year old I found it hard to juggle the 2. Also I knew that he wouldn’t replace my cat, but maybe I wanted to replace the relationship and I put too much on it at the start.
My and ddog are still learning about each other. But I sometimes feel that life was so much easier when he wasn’t here, and that he doesn’t quite ‘fit in’ yet. My DH didn’t really want a dog, although he takes his responsibility for him and also has said recently that he does love and care for him. Maybe it’s because things were much easier with the cat and also this has been a big change?
Anyway I’d be happy to know your thoughts. I’m committed to ddog and would be so sad if he knew I felt this way 😂 as he’s such a happy chap.
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Hate myself for thinking this, when will ddog ‘fit in’?
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whowrotethebookoflove · 29/12/2019 11:36
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