I have a miniature dachshund. She's smooth haired and barely maults. My kids are 7 and 10 and know not to pick her up as their backs are very delicate. She's very affectionate with everyone including the children but they are very needy and like being with someone at all times.
Yes to the poodle allergy. I have suggested a cockapoo or similar as I thought they were good for allergy sufferers but he says not for him! As I mentioned he has lived with a short haired miniature dashchund and it has been manageable so that seems the only possibility at the moment.