If you were walking your dog towards someone with two dogs on leads...

(29 Posts)
Honeyroar Sun 10-Nov-19 20:15:25

Would you throw your dog a ball so it lands just past the other person's dogs and let your dog run after it?

Someone did this today. My dogs wanted to run after the ball too, but we're good, however when the lady walked past I said I thought it was a bit mean to throw a ball so close to other people's dogs when they were on a lead. I said it's generally polite to keep your dog with you when passing someone who has their dogs on leads. She said she didn't see why, if her dog was under control why should she bother.

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Pinktop Sun 10-Nov-19 20:18:45

I’m with her (unless you were struggling to manage them that is) plenty of people walk there dogs on the lead all the time, how you chose to walk your dog shouldn’t affect how others chose to walk theirs (again unless you were struggling to manage)

Honeyroar Sun 10-Nov-19 20:24:31

But surely you wouldn't know if someone was struggling until too late if you lobbed a ball right at them?

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Wolfiefan Sun 10-Nov-19 20:27:21

@Pinktop it’s good manners to keep your dog away from a dog on a lead. Recall and keep it close or put it on a lead.
Dog could be in season, injured, scared of other dogs or be deaf/blind.

Frlrlrubert Sun 10-Nov-19 20:38:36

I wouldn't. I tend to assume dogs are on a lead for a reason and recall mine to heel to pass.

If they look like they're struggling I'll usually step off the path and make mine sit.

Mostly because I've seen the damage an on lead dog can do to another (not mine) that gets too close.

Jouska Sun 10-Nov-19 20:44:51

She is a ill mannered weirdo - you meet a lot of them on dog walks

Stellaris22 Sun 10-Nov-19 20:53:51

Did she do it repeatedly? She maybe didn't see you and your dogs while playing with her dog. I would agree with the person playing with her dog in this instance, she's just using an open space to play with and socialise her dog, you are also using the area for exercise purposes.


Honeyroar Sun 10-Nov-19 20:59:51

She did it twice. Yes she saw me. It was a single track road along a reservoir bank, she was throwing the ball along the banking at the side of the road. As it happened my dogs were on the lead because one is allergic to grass, but she didn't know that. She thought I was joking at first when I said it was mean, then got quite angry when she realised I wasn't.

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Finchy19 Sun 10-Nov-19 21:07:00

When I had my dog if i saw someone else had their dog on a lead I would call mine back and stick him on a lead, because he's want to say hi and I don't know if that dog is nervous, recovering from injury or illness or what have you.

Celebelly Sun 10-Nov-19 21:08:43

I think it's spectacularly thoughtless. If we are going past other dogs, no ball throwing till we are a good distance past them.

Stellaris22 Sun 10-Nov-19 21:18:23

I don't really see the issue. It is a bit rude and I wouldn't do it, but everyone exercises their dogs differently. Was her dog under control? My only issue is if dog isn't under control and harasses other dogs.

Wolfiefan Sun 10-Nov-19 21:21:33

@Stellaris22 a dog running as fast as it can after a ball isn’t exactly under control. And if the OP had a nervous dog they could have had a dangerous situation.

Stellaris22 Sun 10-Nov-19 21:26:13

I agree it's rude and not something I would do, however everyone has the right to exercise their dog. If a dog likes chasing a ball then that's fine. Should have kept it away from on lead dogs but public spaces are just that, public. Why should someone be made to feel guilty for playing with their dog?

missyB1 Sun 10-Nov-19 21:27:51

You could see her dog was chasing the ball not running at your dogs. If you have good control of both your dogs on the lead then there was nothing to worry about was there?

Jojo19834 Sun 10-Nov-19 21:28:28

OP you were right, thoughtless and she was called out so didn’t like it. Never thought about your dogs or why they were on the lead.

Honeyroar Sun 10-Nov-19 21:32:35

It's not a massive issue, as I said to her I just thought it was a bit mean. 90% of dogs would've wanted to run after the ball too, 90% of dogs would've wanted to run with the other dog. My two were very good, but I thought it was impolite. She thought I was for telling her! No big deal, I just wondered what others thought.

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Honeyroar Sun 10-Nov-19 21:36:24

Ps, it would only have meant not throwing the ball for perhaps 1 minute while we got past and a little bit away from her, so hardly ruining their walk or preventing her exercising her dog, just asking for a tiny bit of respect/thought for other people...

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stophuggingme Sun 10-Nov-19 21:42:15

My dog is weird in that she doesn’t run after a ball. She is walked a lot both in and off lead and she would neither pull on her lead or tear off after it.

But no, I would not expect someone to do this and especially not to someone walking their dog /s on a lead. Not sure I’d have upbraided another dog walker especially since nothing actually happened......

Honeyroar Sun 10-Nov-19 21:48:06

Yeah I probably shouldn't have said anything, but perhaps she might think if she saw someone with a dog on the lead in the future, so perhaps it will help someone else!

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Wolfiefan Sun 10-Nov-19 22:03:28

@Stellaris22 but the dog wasn’t kept away from on lead dogs. confused
OP a tiny bit of respect and thought? Some people are arseholes. They won’t. And they give decent dog owners a bad name. angry

FrangipaniBlue Sun 10-Nov-19 22:19:49

I'm with you OP.

My dog is only 15 months so still training, he generally walks well on the lead at heel unless he sees another dog or ball and then he starts to get over excited and wants to play. If the other dog just walks past or is on a lead I can usually calm mine and get him back to heel no problem.

The problem comes when another dog runs near us or someone throws a ball near us. He absolutely will try and run after it, but he is almost as strong as me and it takes all my strength to hold him back from pulling me over.

It's very selfish to throw a ball for your off leash dog, towards an on leash dog - dogs are not robots and you can't expect them to NOT want to chase the ball!!

The response of done posters on here just shows the "but I'm alright jack" mentality. It costs nothing to have a bit of courtesy and consideration for others.

I was once in the same situation as you OP and when I told them gentleman in question that it wouldn't have hurt him to wait 20 seconds for me to walk by before throwing his dogs ball, I was told to "fuck off and give myself a shake".

FrangipaniBlue Sun 10-Nov-19 22:21:04


Honeyroar Sun 10-Nov-19 23:03:27

Perhaps it was this woman's OH @frangipani! I agree, there's a lot of "I'm alright Jack" about today, I hate it. I'd always try and be nice to other people, I'd never dream of doing something like that to someone else, so it irritates me when they do it to me.

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Branleuse Sun 10-Nov-19 23:11:27

It would be nice if people kept their dogs back from dogs on lead. I know this is good etiquette from reading mumsnet etc. I never used to know this. Not everyone has the internet or browses dog boards, they just live their life and owning a dog now comes with a hell of a lot of little rules according to mumsnet best practice.
I dont think its nice to confront a stranger like this, when noone was hurt and no drama was happening. I know we do it online, but in real life you cant just make a stranger explain themselves over basic everyday annoyances

Honeyroar Sun 10-Nov-19 23:16:04

I didn't make her explain herself, just said I thought throwing a ball right in front of my dogs was a bit mean.

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